25 macho questions that we should all avoid
We live in a society in which progressively establishing equality between the sexes is achieved . The woman has gone from being a helpless figure, ignorant, smiling and helpless that must be maintained and protected while it is dedicated to take care of the children and keep the home to establish itself as an equal figure and with the same rights and possibilities as the man.
However, despite the fact that our society has advanced a lot towards this equality, there can still be fragments of a way of thinking that women are considered inferior or in their performance is limited to a cosmetic or sexualized performance. This is visible in areas such as work or academics, or in the world of advertising.
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Throughout this article we present you 25 macho questions that can attest to the persistence of roles and traditionally granted position to the female gender.
Twenty-five macho questions
Although today it is more difficult to find extremist positions that defend the supremacy of men over women in our society, in our day to day some of the prejudices and traditional gender stereotypes are still visible in different questions.
Sometimes sexism itself is evident, while in others it can be more disguised and even be unconscious . It is possible that some questions are only chauvinistic in certain contexts. The following questions are a sample of it.
1. Are you on those days of the month?
Traditionally, women have been considered emotional, labile and with a mood that can be explosive, especially during menstruation. When a woman is angry or upset, many people assume that it is due to menstruation and not to the existence of other factors.
2. Have you thought about abandoning your career to dedicate yourself to your family?
This question is common in job interviews with women . In the same way, it is assumed that work for women is a temporary hobby.
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3. Have you ever slept with someone to get your position?
When a woman manages to climb in the social position and in the workplace, in many cases his abilities, abilities and the effort that he may have made are ignored and the merit of promotion to the use of sex as an easy resource is attributed.
4. Would not you feel guilty about leaving your baby in the hands of a stranger while you are working?
A way to blame women for having a professional life and in turn to prolong the gender stereotype of the female as a caretaker of the home and of the children.
5. Can you put your husband?
Although at present it does not happen so often, it is frequent that when presenting technical details or when reporting on economic aspects or contracting services such as electricity or gas, the man is identified as the person in charge, ignoring to the woman.
6. Will the young lady also want wine?
When spirits are requested, it is usually assumed that they have been ordered by the male and served to him, and later to the female in case he wanted.
7. How do you do to stay so young at your age?
Physical attractiveness is an element attributed to the female sex . It is usually valued that mature women maintain a youthful appearance without wrinkles, and if they do not achieve it they are usually perceived as less attractive and interesting, and even as less socially valuable. This does not happen to the same extent with men, which may even be considered more attractive.
8. Would you be willing to come with a miniskirt to work?
In many types of business, employees are required to dress in ways that imply their attributes , using them as a claim to attract men.
9. Do you have children or do you plan to have them?
A usual question in job interviews and that can often lead to discrimination and exclusion of the candidate. Generally, it is because the company assumes that there is a possibility that the woman focuses on her family nucleus and neglects her work, as well as that she takes maternity leave.
10. Is this how a lady / lady behaves?
In some regions and cultures that a woman manifests character, competitiveness, spontaneity, intelligence, sensuality or simply differs from that established by man is considered unfeminine and unworthy of it.
11. A woman driving? I better get another taxi
It is common to hear phrases or sayings like "woman at the wheel, constant danger" . Part of the population formerly considered that women do not have a good driving capacity, a belief that has been perpetuated in the form of a stereotype.
12. How does it feel to be a couple of ...?
Many women of great fame and importance by their own merits who have been matched or are relatives of known men have often seen that they are presented as the "couple of" or the "family member of", ignoring their contributions.
13. Does your husband help you with household chores?
This question is macho in the sense that it is assumed that household chores are a woman's thing and the man as much helps with them, instead of considering that the home is of both and therefore should share the tasks equally. It is not a matter of one helping them and the other helping, but of both of them collaborating.
14. Do not you want to have children? Do not you worry about feeling empty?
The main role that has been attributed to women is that of mother . Women who decide not to have children often find that their environment considers that they will not feel fulfilled if they do not fulfill that role.
15. How do you think of going out alone at those times?
The image of the woman as a fragile and vulnerable creature still survives in comments like this, causing that in some cases they are even prevented from leaving until late at night unless accompanied by a man.
16. How do you feel that your boss is a woman?
Another effect of machismo is the relatively low presence of women in high places . In general, high positions in the hierarchy of companies have been occupied by men, and some workers with outdated ways of thinking may find it strange or even refuse to work under a woman's orders.
17. Will you adopt your husband's name?
Although today it is a tradition in decline and does not apply in our territory, In some countries like the United States the tradition of adopting the male's surname is still preserved after the marriage, ignoring the one of origin.
18. Would you flirt with customers to stay longer?
Seducing the clientele is something that is often asked of women who exercise to face the public to buy or consume more.
19. How do you reconcile your personal or work life?
This phrase is not sexist or sexist. However, it can be observed that there is a tendency for it to be much more used if the person being interviewed is a woman.
20. Is owning a home as rewarding as having a paid job?
Belonging to the survey of the Center for Public Studies this year, the question assumes that the main role of women is that of a housewife.
21. Do not you think you're eating too much? You are going to get fat
Although something similar happens with men today, traditionally it has been women who have received the most pressure to maintain an image that meets the stereotypes of beauty . This causes that food disorders such as anorexia and bulimia have arisen and have expanded.
22. Why do you dress like that if you do not want to be looked at?
A typical question even today. It is typical of situations in which there is an unwanted sexual approach towards the woman in question or even in cases of rape. The victim is blamed for the situation, considering that his clothing or behavior has been an act of provocation that makes her worthy of sexual harassment.
23. Does not your husband care that you win more than him?
The wage gap continues to be one of the aspects in which more gender differences are detected. In addition, there is a tendency that when a man earns less than his wife is frowned upon, he is considered incapable or even a maintained. On the other hand, that it is the woman who earns less or does not have a remunerated activity is not so bad seen.
24. Will you work once the baby is born?
Pregnant women may have been questioned about this aspect. It arises if the fact that a child is born will cause him to completely abandon his work to dedicate himself exclusively to him.
25. And what will a woman know about this?
This question reflects the belief that women do not have the capacity to reflect or come up with a solution on a specific topic because they are so.
