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6 things we do when nobody sees us

6 things we do when nobody sees us

December 5, 2021

Does our personality change when we are alone? Maybe the simple fact that no one is watching us does not influence us so much as to become another person, but the truth is that privacy changes us.

Not only does it make us adopt a kind of habits very different from those we make in someone else's company but it also makes us react in a radically different way when we expose ourselves to certain types of situations.

What do you do when nobody sees you?

So… What are these actions that define our way of behaving when no one looks at us? These are some of them.

1. Click on publications in bad taste

For some time now, videos and publications about suppurating wounds, corpses or parasites that inhabit the cavities of the human body have circulated on Facebook. It is content virilized just because there is a massive amount of people who click on these contents , yes, when nobody else is watching. And well, the malicious computer programs that take over user accounts also help.


But ... what is it that makes us feel attracted to this type of content despite finding them repulsive? The answer could be in the way they put us on alert and attentive to what happens. As it happens in scary movies, the combination between a sense of control (it is about images and videos that we can look away from) and excitement makes us want to experience the intense sensation of seeing something extraordinary. It is a small dose of strong emotions that we can taste from the couch at home.

2. Flow

Within what is known as Positive Psychology, one of the most well-known researchers is Mihály Csíkszentmihályi , which for years has been making known its perspective on a phenomenon called flow state. This is a state in which the maximum concentration is combined with an intense well-being experimentation and a personal involvement in what we are doing. The state of flow can be described as a state similar to the state of trance that occurs when the difficulty of what we are doing and the satisfaction of this task are in an almost perfect balance.


In most people, the state of flow does not occur very often, and yet It is easier to appear in solitude or when you feel that nobody is looking , since that allows us to stop worrying about the image we give and our attention can be totally focused on the task at hand.

3. Sing (in the shower)

A classic. Who has not ever sung in the shower? And yet, there does not seem to be a logic behind this behavior.

Well, actually there is.

Normally, showers are produced in a room where we are alone and we can relax without thinking about what we are doing. In addition, the possibility of adjusting the temperature of the water and massaging the skin makes us relax, which in turn leads us to produce more dopamine, a substance that in many contexts puts us in a good mood and leads us to "free ourselves "and be more creative. From there, the rest is simply joining the points: we are alone, with a constant sound that masks our voice and some walls so isolated that all the sounds bounce off of them; and, in addition, our hands are busy, but our mouths are not.


4. Feeling embarrassed

Although years ago since social psychology was considered that shame is a phenomenon that appears when we are accompanied, today we know that the normal thing is that it can appear with great intensity even when no one is watching. The reason for this is that, when comparing our real actions with our model of "ideal self", the inconsistencies we perceive are not experienced in a cold and dispassionate way, but rather they automatically produce an emotional imprint .

5. Watch videos for adults

At present, about 12% of the websites that exist on the Internet are related to pornography . They are visited monthly by some 72 million users, mostly young men, although a third of visits to these sites It is done by women. There is no doubt that with the generalization of the use of the network of networks this type of content has become something everyday for many people.

6. Do not take the reins of the situation

There are situations in which we feel that no one is aware of our presence despite being accompanied. For example, when a few meters from where we are there is someone who needs help and there are many people who, because of their proximity, could offer help.

What happens then is known as the bystander effect: As the number of people nearby increases, the chances of someone intervening diminish .


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