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Are there real people? 5 keys to identify them

Are there real people? 5 keys to identify them

February 29, 2024

Taking a look at what we know about our history, It seems that human beings have always wanted to pretend more than what we are . Both through the exaggeration of the characteristics that define us and through the invention of traits that, in the end, do not characterize us. This happens at the collective level, as seen for example in the great monuments designed to impress, but also, and this is the most painful of all, on an individual level.

And I say it's painful because, beyond how badly certain people who live by and to pretend what is not, can fall vanity is, in reality, something that prevents us from knowing people . A barrier that keeps us separated, where it exists to a greater or lesser extent.


And this becomes a problem when we ask ourselves the key question ...

Who is safe from vanity?

When we have to make quick decisions about who to direct our attention to, many times we end up surrendering to the possibility of judging through appearances and clichés and favor the people who wrap their identity in them. We like authentic people more, but we opt for those who live by the image.

Yes, authenticity is not characterized by having been very abundant years ago, but some people say that today authentic people are in critical danger of extinction. The motives? The culture of the show, the importance of the image over content, the dictatorship of fast consumption. These are principles that seem to belong to the field of advertising, marketing and markets, but that increasingly invade the terrain of the human, the personal.


Being honest is expensive

Not only is vain behavior reinforced. Honesty is also punished . It is logical, if one takes into account that many studies show that much of professional success also depends on our personal image. It occurs in practically any field of work, but it is somewhat extreme in the case of professions in which aesthetics are decisive.

In certain social networks such as Instagram you can see how there is a bubble of speculation based on aesthetics. We saw it in the case of the model Stina Sanders and the scandal that was formed when she started uploading selfies without makeup, or in the case of Essena O'Neill.

How to recognize authentic people?

Having seen it, it is not surprising that authentic people can be difficult to find: they are buried under a barrage of social dynamics that invite them to stop acting as they do.


However, with a little dedication and practice it is possible to get to recognize someone whose way of being and acting is consistent with their way of thinking .

Knowing these basic characteristics can help to vindicate this way of understanding life and, in addition, to self-assess to know if you are succeeding in linking personal development to the conquest of an authentic personality.

What people are really authentic? Its basic characteristics are the following.

1. They do not constantly think about their image

This is, possibly, its most defining feature. Of course, everything is relative, so authentic people can spontaneously think about how they are seen by others, but this does not become an obsessive loop .

This means, for example, that they rarely ask for a second opinion about their appearance , and that they do not worry about appearing indifferent towards their image, something that ironically could happen if they were ascribed in a very rigid or dogmatic way to an aesthetic current that by pure conventionalism we relate to nonchalance and the alternative (hipters, punks, etc.) .

2. Do not force your nonverbal language

This is a practical consequence that derives from the previous characteristic. People who try to adopt very shallow movements and a tone of voice are relatively easy to recognize, because it takes a lot of work to learn a series of patterns of movements that do not correspond to those we have been learning and using since our childhood.

In this way, his nonverbal language is natural and you will not see them trying to pretend what they are not .

3. They are not afraid to show their opinions

The authentic people they speak as freethinkers, and they will clearly express their ideas although these may seem very radical or strange . The motives? They know that in most spaces the free expression of their ideas will not give them serious problems, and therefore they do not renounce to take advantage of the possibilities offered by a good conversation with someone.

This makes them good conversationalists, although sometimes their reflections can cause controversy among those accustomed to a politically correct argumentative line.

4. They try to understand others

Leaving behind vanity and misunderstood pride also implies, to a greater or lesser extent, give up clichés and stereotypes to try to "read your mind" to someone that you do not know very well.

There where other people throw in the towel, excusing themselves in the belief that they already know what the other person is like, authentic people assume the challenge of making their way of understanding reality fit with those of their interlocutors.

5. Do not prejudge

The authentic people They are not very friendly to make decisions based on how they are presented their possible options . Therefore, they like to re-examine what happens to them, taking into account which things are objective and which are, simply, biases and prejudices fabricated arbitrarily by others.

This does not mean that in order to be authentic you can not be impulsive, but that you do not fall into easy judgments and you question prevailing opinions. What they call "rebellious spirit."


5 Keys To Identifying Your SoulMate - Touré Roberts (February 2024).


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