At what age, on average, do we find our better half?
Our better half, our other half... are popular expressions when we talk about love and relationships, and although there is no lack of reason to criticize this type of concepts, many people understand affective relationships as a perfect fit between two people. Since we began to feel attracted to someone, it is possible that a doubt appears. Is this the ideal person for me?
Many times, in addition, to this doubt another one is added: I am prepared or ready to begin the definitive relation? It's too soon? In short, it is interesting to know, on average, how old most people are when they start dating the couple they are going to stay with for most of their lives.
Next, we will see what scientific research says about a very interesting topic: At what age do we find our better half?
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Defining our "half orange"
There is no conception or exact terminology to determine what is the average orange, that ideal couple with whom we share (or we would like to share) our trips, housing, friends ... in short, the rest of our lives.
On the other hand, in general terms and after a concerted consensus among experts in social psychology and sentimental relationships, our better half is that person who makes us feel in a special way, unique, that transmits love to us good and mature or that give us an added value to our daily lives, and with which we form an affective relationship based on certain commitments . That is to say, it is someone to whom, in our preferred life, we give privileged treatment simply for the fact of being who he is and for agreeing to be part of the relationship.
What are the conditions that define it?
Experts point out that the conditions for the meeting of stable love are several and of a different nature. Previous experiences, the expectations that we created (These are very influential) and the determined life moment in which we are are some of the bases that will facilitate the encounter with the average orange.
Other determining factors that determine the phenomenon are usually sociocultural or labor conditions . That is to say, in the environment in which we find ourselves it can be more or less favorable to relate with people in whom we see romantic interest. Let us imagine an individual working at work, weekends and festivities and having barely enough money to support himself; this subject will cost a bit more to socialize with the rest of people, among other things due to lack of time.
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At what age do we usually find our final partner?
As we have seen before, and considering how capricious love and its destiny are, it is difficult to decide exactly what is the last age to find our better half. In some cases it arrives at a very early age, where the first couple is the one who ends up sharing our lives. In others it is usually at an advanced age and after having even lost hope. But nevertheless, it is possible to detect general statistical patterns , beyond the extraordinary cases.
Recently an important sample was made between a group of people of both sexes in the dating portal Match, from where a study in which data about the love life of approximately 6,000 people was collected.
In the experiment it was concluded that the average age to find our average orange is about 27 years. Apparently, and This is the best time to find the love of our life .
However, the same study found differences between men and women . Taking into account the former, these tend to stabilize their love life at age 28, against women who do so at an amazing and early age of 25 years.
The importance of love disappointments
So, there are some indications to think that, statistically, the average orange is found at a young age in adulthood , having acquired a mental and physical maturity. Specifically, between 27 and 28 years of age and, above all, after having failed in several previous relationships.
These past failures make us "filter" better in love and that we do not devote much time and effort to be with people who in a short time prove not to be compatible with us because of their personality or their habits.
Infidelity as a precedent
Another expert portal on the subject, Dating, ensures that women they will have maintained at least 3 serious relationships before finding their ultimate love . Men, on the other hand, will have consummated no less than 6 serious relationships in order to be able to mate forever.
In addition, and here comes the interesting, in both groups have suffered or lived a bad experience caused mostly by a case of infidelity . Neither of the two sexes presents differences before such a peculiarity. This explains the number of relationships that will keep each other before lasting love.
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Love is not sought, it is found
Although there are patterns, profiles and other characteristics that define our better half, we should not fall into the error of relying on statistical and purely scientific data, since love is not an exact equation .
For this reason, and taking as reference another study conducted by the Discovery Channel, it has been determined that couples who have committed to marry or share the rest of their lives with their true love, these they have done it when they least expected it .
Three out of five men say that their current partner does not have the prototype of a woman they dreamed of in their adolescence or puberty. In the case of women, the same thing happens: they have linked at the least expected time and with the person they would have least set according to their physical standards .