Coparentality: a new way of having a child
In a few years, the internet has revolutionized the way we live. Today we not only buy everything unimaginable through the network, but this one It has also become a powerful socialization tool .
Although 10 years ago we could look at those who intimated through those rudimentary chats calling them "weird", today, in the new generations, the weird is the one who has not had an appointment through the multiple pages of online contacts that exist. Whether you want to meet someone for a "here I catch you here I kill you" as if what you want is to find the man or woman of your life, the internet has a lot to offer you.
Be the father of an innovative way: co-parenthood
What's more, if what you want is to find the future father or the future mother of your children without it being necessary to maintain an affective-sexual relationship between you, now it is also possible. So you understand me, I'm talking about the coparentality . Being co-parents means that two people come together with a single wish: to have a child in common .
I imagine that when you read this you can come to certain doubts in your head, which is totally logical, since understand this new conception forces us to expand the relational paradigm . In effect, coparentality separates marriage from conception and upbringing, which is the antithesis of the parental style that humanity has been practicing for millennia: children as the result of a marriage relationship.
A real example to better understand coparentality
I will present an example that I attended once in consultation.
Eva is 39 years old and for 10 years has worked as team leader in a technological multinational. Since then his working days are tremendously long and demanding, which has been an important impediment when it comes to finding the man of his life. Actually he did, but 5 years ago, just before getting married, he thought better of it and left it.
Since then Eva, she has lived overturned in her work with the idea of being a single mother before 40 if she did not find anyone . He even went for tests to perform an artificial insemination with donor sperm, but before taking the step an article fell on his hands on coparentality, which was mentioned on a web page dedicated to satisfying this need. The idea of sharing the upbringing of his future son and that he also had at the same time a father figure seemed very interesting. He also valued very positively the fact of being able to share the expenses that this would entail as well as the time spent without having to give up the rest of the plots of his life.
Soon after creating a profile, Eva met Álvaro, a 35-year-old gay boy who had been in a relationship with her boyfriend for more than five years. He had always wanted to have children p But for various reasons, it ruled out both the option of adoption and the option of rent . As soon as they met, the first thing they did was to reveal their fears "is this really weird?" They said laughing. Both sensed that before taking the step they had to know each other deeply.
It's more, they had to become friends , two friends who would share during many years the upbringing, the expenses and the time that supposed to have a son very wished by both.
Being the son of a coparental relationship
On a psychological level, the newborn, the child or the adolescent, the result of a co-parenthood It does not have to have any special conflict while your parents have a good climate and assume their commitment , that is the only requirement. If the adults manage their day-to-day well, then the child will be raised in the same way as any other that is the fruit of a conventional and well-traveled couple. Needless to say, the dramas that many children of parents separated in a conflictive way are much more harmful to these children.
In reality, co-parenting is nothing more than the result of the changes that society has been experiencing for some decades . Just as the current social freedom has allowed to separate the sex from marriage, it is not necessary to be a couple to share the parenthood, just personal maturity and common sense.
