Cuckolding: the fantasy of infidelity
The concept of infidelity is behind this word is for most couples cause for concern and fear, to the point that can lead to the occurrence of jealousy (justified or not) and even serious partner conflicts. It is an act that, unless agreed in advance (for example, having an open relationship), is usually experienced as a betrayal of the relationship, being your partner in bed the nightmare of many and many.
However, some people may come to find it erotic that their partner has relationships with other people, to the point of having emerged a trend in this regard: the so-called cuckolding or cuckqueaning .
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Cuckolding: concept of this sexual modality
The concept of cuckolding, whose approximate translation would be something like "Putting the horns" or "being unfaithful" , also refers nowadays to a sexual tendency or practice based on obtaining sexual gratification through the observation or the story of your partner maintaining relationships with a third person.
Technically, cuckolding would refer to the practice in which a man obtains sexual satisfaction from watching his partner maintain relations with another man, while cuckqueaning would be the case of those women who get excited seeing their partner with another woman. In general, however, cuckolding is more frequent (that is, the observer is male).
In the couples in which this practice takes place, the part that does not maintain sexual relations find gratification and exciting the fact that your partner has them with another person and he can see it , or that your partner tells you about the meeting. This can awaken the passion later between both members and serve as an enhancer for the joint sexual life. It is not impossible either that masturbatory behaviors appear while the observation / story takes place.
Many couples consider this practice as satisfactory, generating emotions and enhancing joint sexual life. It is nevertheless necessary that it be something agreed and to which both parties freely agree, without pressures of any kind and without being forced to do it to please the other party .
Although infrequent, cuckolding is a normative sexual activity and can be an experience for those who really want to put it into practice. However, when it is the only or practically the only cause of sexual arousal for the observer and generates discomfort or interference in their normal functioning can be constituted as a paraphilia, called troilism.
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Booming practice, previously rejected
In recent times cuckolding / cuckqueaning has been spreading among the population, becoming a trend and breaking through the usual sexual fantasies .
However, it is far from being a majority practice. It is not a practice for everyone: it assumes that the couple will be having sex with another person and this is unpleasant for many people.
In fact until relatively few years ago it was a practice socially rejected by the majority of society. And is that cuckolding is a practice that has been poorly considered, as have many other sexual tendencies .
For example, it has a certain relationship with the idea of the exchange of couples, being a similar concept. In this case the couple agrees in advance the situation, being something accepted by both parties. It also has a relationship with voyeurism and exhibitionism, because part of the erotic component has the look / receive a description of what happened or be watched / tell the relationship.
Possible causes of the appearance of excitation
The fact that seeing another man or woman having sexual relations with one's partner is something sexually exciting is something that may seem strange to many people, and whose meaning has been tried to be explained by different authors.
One of the existing theories proposes that part of the excitement may be due to the fact that when the sexual partner maintains relationships with another is breaking with the social norm of monogamy. The pleasure would come from challenging the stipulated. Also in the case of couples in which the non-active part is present seeing the situation, the subject can visualize the fantasy while having some control of the situation.
Another perspective has a more biological aspect, and the excitation can be derived from a behavior observed in multiple animal species : when in internal breeding species a male copulates with a female paired with another male and this observes the interaction, in many cases he proceeds to copulate with the female in order to interfere with the semen of the previous copulation. It is what is called sperm competition. Also, different investigations seem to show that human semen is of higher quality and is produced in greater quantity in situations of competition with other competitors. This last theory, although viable, does not explain why cuckqueaning.
