Differences between the libido of the two sexes
The differences between men and women are undeniable: they are visible, and they are even part of the anatomy itself. The same goes for the ways of living sex: the forms of stimulation, the place that sex occupies in the mind, the need to masturbate, sexual desires and fantasies ...
The libido it tends to be experienced, then, in a different way according to the sex of each person.
Despite this, what is sought is harmony and complicity between the couple when it comes to having sex. But what a difficulty in the face of such differences. However, if we stop to know how the sexual response of both men and women changes throughout their respective lives , our expectations will be more realistic at the time of the relationship.
The sexual response throughout life, according to sex
17 - 18 years
At 17 or 18, they reach the top of their sexuality . Sex invades his thoughts, reaching between 4 and 8 daily orgasms of great intensity. The exclusive refractory period of men (time in which they can not have an orgasm, after having ejaculated previously), is very short, from a few seconds to a minute. From then on, his sexual capacity diminishes very slowly.
20 - 30 years
Between the end of the 20s and the beginning of the 30s, your sexual thoughts and your libido change, but still respond easily to sexual stimuli. They need less orgasms, they masturbate less, the rigidity of your erections begins to decrease and the refractory period lengthens .
40 - 49 years
From the 40 begin to notice important changes. The thoughts and erotic fantasies continue to decrease, they need more stimulation to reach the erection (which will be slower) and the refractory period continues to increase.
50 years and older
At 50 the orgasmic need of man is much lower, with two climaxes a week they have enough, they will be less intense and with a weak ejaculation. During the 60s, insecurity, frustration and anxiety prevail; since it is difficult to accept that your sex life is changing. However, this can be seen as something positive, thinking that the urge to ejaculate and having more time for imagination and tenderness .
During adolescence show less interest in sexuality than men . Little by little, your sensitivity increases.
35 - 45 years
Between 35 and 40 years reach the peak moment of their sexuality and increase the speed and intensity of excitement . After age 45, the sexual capacity of women begins to decrease gradually, but more slowly than in the case of men. Another important difference compared to men, is that age does not affect their orgasmic capacity.
After 60 years
At 60 and past menopause, it does not have to diminish the sexual desire, although the orgasmic intensity decreases .
After age 65, women gradually become less worried about sex, but continue to use the self-satisfaction without having to depend on the desire and ability of your partner.
What to do to enjoy a healthy sexuality throughout life?
To try to reduce these discrepancies and prevent them from affecting the couple's sex life, agrees to "stay active" . Avoid monotony in the relationship, worries (work, economic, conjugal) that generate stress, stay physically and mentally, take a healthy diet, avoid alcohol and other types of toxic substances.
That means, without going any further, "coexisting" at all levels and taking into account the different way in which the couple experiences well-being.
To know more about how improve libido , I recommend you read the following post:"How can we improve our sexual desire?"
- De Béjar, S. (2003). Ès the teu sexe!. Barcelona: Butxaca 62