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Flirt, girls, self-concept and sex: 8 tricks to convince them

Flirt, girls, self-concept and sex: 8 tricks to convince them

September 29, 2022

The boys are a bit gross when it comes to flirting. We are in a hurry to reach the goal and we forget that they think and feel different from us. His self-concept and ours are different; we have to take it into account in order to communicate assertively and be able to move forward in our relationship.

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We must learn to read the context and non-verbal language to try to detect what points we should work in our communication.

Luckily, our culture is changing and, although gender roles are becoming more homogenous, thanks to the sexual liberation of women . It is true that they still receive many social burdens that make them watch more for their selfconcept . For example, many people still think that a girl who goes to bed with many boys is anybody and the man who has many girls is a winner.


Little by little these fallacies will be destroyed but, for the moment we have to understand that girls live a certain pressure when thinking about how they are perceived by their environment.

How do we think the boys?

As we have already pointed out, the boys are impatient and, when we want sex, we are blinded and we only see the girl and our goal. Our interests make us focus on moving forward without taking into account the environment and the thoughts of it; often, we act in a little selective when we have cravings for sex

How do they think?

The girls take into account more factors when it comes to reflect. They think of the Social context , in the person in front of them and how they will feel after going to bed with us. For social and biological reasons, which we will tell another day, the sex , for them, it has a close relationship with its selfconcept .


What is self-concept?

Self-concept is the way a person perceives and feels with himself; It is closely linked to self-esteem, which is the way a person values ​​themselves.

Knowing what self-concept is and how the social environment influences that of girls can optimize communication to make them feel comfortable.

We have to learn to read the social context , in the person in front of them and ensure the comfort and convenience of the interaction.

What do girls want to avoid?

The first point that we must take into account is that, although it is evident, the girls are not an object not a trophy or anything that resembles them. It would be good for men to overcome certain macho beliefs that we have learned in our social development and to begin to value them and to qualify them for something more than their body or their physical attractiveness.


In the 21st century, the girls decide who they sleep with and we do not have to think about tricky strategies or tricks that, in the long run, will be discovered as liars. Let's learn to value people for what makes them unique and deferential of others and learn to communicate what makes others special.

What are girls looking for?

As a general rule, girls want feel special (like us, go) and know that the boy in front of them will know how to act accordingly and will not make them feel bad about themselves or their social environment. They want to feel that the person they are likely to go to bed with is also a special person, of high value and that they deserve someone who deserves them. Each girl is different and in recent times there are more women who move away from these cultural patterns that, in a certain way, are patriarchal. But the Judeo-Christian culture and morality is strongly rooted, and that means that certain patterns of sexual behavior are required socially to the girls.

How to convince a girl? Flirting is not everything

Next, we will expose eight key points to be able to communicate in a way that benefits the interaction and creates solid bonds of real trust. Be warned that it is not cheating. It consists in working yourself to be able to offer the best of one, without falling into manipulation.

It is not enough to look, you have to be. Become a assertive person and high value will not only help you to flirt with girls; All aspects of your life will be positively affected if you follow these eight tips.

Needless to say, each person is different and I do not pretend that these eight points are dogmas or unbreakable norms. They are only tools to create the synergy of positivity , friendship and attraction that can bring you unforgettable and genuine moments.

1. Cultívate

It is essential to start with oneself. Cultivating our hobbies, friendships and professional careers will be the way to develop a attractive life and full.Becoming cultured, mature and experienced will make us be perceived as possessing a high social and individual value. Let's think about what we like to do and what goals we have in life to walk towards them.

2. Comfort and comfort

Learning to communicate to make others feel good will make people feel good by our side. The trust It is one of the most difficult things to generate in a relationship. It is important that we learn to develop social skills that help others feel comfortable by our side; Playing warmly, learning to listen and saying things kindly ... will be a good way to start.

3. Be discreet

Many guys we sin boasters ; we like to show off our conquests and we boast about the girls we have slept with. This makes the girls perceive us as indiscreet people and, therefore, that they fear to sleep with us. We must learn to be silent and to know when and to whom to tell our intimacies. Having a trusted friend to whom we can tell you these things will make our love conquests not become vox populi.

4. Read the context

In case it has not been clear, we repeat: no one who wants to be judged socially as a person little selective or easy . This means that depending on which contexts, we must learn to communicate in one way or another. It is not the same to talk in privacy that surrounded by friends and acquaintances at a dinner. Knowing where and with whom we are will give us information about how to behave and what we can say or do and not do. So that no one feels attacked his self-concept and avoid social judgment.

5. Insinuate yourself properly

This point is closely linked to the previous one. The context will give us signals of how and when we have to suggest that we like or want to sleep with them or give them a kiss. Saying things in a subtle way so that our message goes unnoticed by others will be of great help so that she does not feel pressured and comfortable.

6. Read between the lines

That we have to learn to communicate with discretion is because they, in part, also do it. Understand why they say what they say and to detect the reason why they say it, is fundamental so that we know how to communicate with them and to master the techniques of flirting. Girls rarely communicate directly; we have to learn to translate their indirect messages and thus we will save ourselves as "breaded".

7. Alone, much better

Reading the context and communicating in an adequate and subtle way, are tools for communicate more intimately and directly . Away from social pressure, we will feel more comfortable and we will be able to express ourselves more freely to ourselves and to others.

8. Have a reason why

Sex does not have to be a motive in itself. Our sexual interest has to be based on more refined attributes than a beautiful body or because we simply want. We can not force anyone to want sex with us. But we can improve our message so that we are not perceived as someone who only wants sex. At the end of the day, if a girl does not want to sleep with us, she will not do it for many strategies that we use. But if we learn to say things and have reasons, at least we will be clear of people who only see them as a sexual object .

In summary

Little by little, society is defeating and letting go of macho chaos, but in the meantime, know the self-concept of the other person , learn to observe it and value it for its values, will facilitate our communication. Develop the noble art of discretion and learn how and when to communicate why we like the person that attracts us, will be very useful to ensure your comfort and can choose more freely, far from the judgment of others.


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