Learning to manage empathy and adaptation: two wonderful qualities of the human being

April 4, 2024

Adaptability and empathy: How to take advantage of these two qualities to achieve a better person?

"I adapt to situations."

"I do not mind giving in."

"I adapt."

"The others do not give in for me, they are more rigid."

"If I do not adapt myself, others do not."

There are many times that people are not aware of what they do to us. It is what makes people, especially those close to us, behave in a way that we do not like.

From my point of view, ADAPTABILITY and EMPATHY are two of the best qualities for the development of happiness as I understand it, practice it and teach it: Be the person you want to be and have the life you want.

If they know how to use both qualities, they are designed to be tools that help us to reach our full potential, including difficult moments, in which they can play a decisive role. If we do not know how to treat them, they can become a deadly trap that leads us to live by or for others, without responding to our will.

The first thing we are going to do is to see what these two qualities really are.

Adaptability

Is the ability to change depending on the change. Why, from my point of view, is it one of the best tools and qualities that we should promote? While rigidity is immobility, adaptation is change, learning, movement. As Darwin said, the survival of the animal world lies in its ability to adapt to changes.

If something is characterized life is a constant uncertainty and constant change. The human being has wonderful qualities, but he has not taken the time to learn them. We do not control anything external to ourselves, so the ability to adapt to changes or uncertainty becomes the perfect tool for life. Eliminate resistance, denial of what happens by giving you the ability and power to redirect your life, following YOUR path , taking into account the circumstances. Beautiful, is not it?

We go with the following concept. Empathy is the ability to put oneself in someone else's shoes. Why is this capacity practical for your daily life? Empathy facilitates understanding and the ability to love, compassion, creativity, so necessary to see the options we have or ways to get where you want, the solution of problems and of course the advance and the capacity for forgiveness and therefore, it is very useful in all aspects of the sentimental plane.

The two faces of the same coin

Adapting is not giving in, much less modifying what you want depending on others or giving up your dreams due to external pressures. Empathy is not before situations, problems, even moments of joy or achievements of others ahead of your own life, what you feel, what you want, what happens to you or just want to express.

That's why we get confused. Because where we talk about empathy and adaptation there is a certain absence of limits. This is not a big problem, because it can be solved. When it comes to a question of setting limits, we are talking about one of the great and little known facets or areas of self-esteem.

What can I do in this case? What does it mean to set limits?

The limits mark what you leave or do not allow / allow to happen in your life, from eating a mint ice cream when you do not like it, allowing a bad gesture, to working on something you detest. So, when you put limits, what you are really doing is raising your quality of life, discerning between what you love and what does not bring you anything positive.

But ... if I've spent my whole life without putting them ... can I now?

Of course. It is a matter of desire, learning and perseverance.

When you start to put limits on your life you are surprised how thinking that you were going to create conflict or lose "things or people" for the change, what happens is that people start to show you more respect, and everything starts to balance.

Now your mind can tell you, "it's impossible", but it's only because you did not know how to face reality .

Now you know that your empathy and adaptation are good and that in the face of what hurts you, you can set limits, which is not a consequence of being a person who adapts and / or is empathetic. It is a question of self-esteem, and simply taking some classes you can get the changes you are looking for.