Love and infatuation: 7 surprising investigations
What does science say about love and infatuation ? Today we review seven scientific investigations in this regard, which reveal the great mystery of the relationship of our brain and our behavior with the romantic.
The studies that lovers should know: falling in love and love, under the magnifying glass of science
Psychologists, sociologists and physicians have tried to understand human behavior regarding falling in love, love, lack of love, or attraction. And that's because love is one of the most extraordinary sensations that humans can enjoy, and the intense emotions and passion of falling in love often affect the mind and body of all of us.
In the last decades, the investigations in this field have been many and varied . Although there has not always been a consensus on discoveries, today we are going to review some curious conclusions about love and falling in love.
1. Love is like the drug
The chemistry of love is able to make us feel in full rush, make us suffer a downer or make us feel the monkey for someone . That love is like a drug is totally true, since it uses the same neural pathways as this one. As a study of the Albert Einstein College of Medicine points out, when love is broken, just as when a person is addicted to drugs, the consequences of addiction are so strong that they can lead to serious depressive and obsessive behaviors.
Like the drug, love releases dopamine, serotonin or noradrenaline, so when we fall in love we feel excited, full of energy and our perception of life is magnificent.You can check it by consulting the article "The chemistry of love: a very powerful drug", in which we explain in detail the influence of falling in love in our behavior.
2. Christmas causes divorces
The investigations seem to indicate that After Christmas, the couple breaks up . The change of schedules and the more intense coexistence causes the differences that have been hidden to surface. Since Christmas is the most stressful time for couples, divorces and separations grow an average of 5% in the month of January compared to the rest of the year according to the data of the General Council of the Judicial Power of Spain.
The reasons that lead to this increase in sentimental breakdowns include added stress. In addition, according to Victoria Milan, the dating site for married people or couples looking for an adventure, more than 45% said they felt the desire to divorce during January, while only 22% said that the opposite. This study was carried out with more than 9,000 women and men who use the dating website.
3. The small details are what count
We live in a consumer society and love and social relationships have also been commodified. That is why it is important to remember that they are the little things that make the difference in the end . A recent study related to the psychology of love, in which 4000 residents of the United Kingdom participated, concluded that acts of kindness are the most valued. Bring coffee to your partner when he gets up, be receptive when he gets tired or tired of work or remind him how great it looks in the morning will be more valued than spending a lot of money on a gift.But be careful, because there is another study that says the opposite: that kindness is a problem when finding a partner. Hard to believe? Check it by entering this link: "The kindness, an obstacle when it comes to meet your partner."
4. Watch love movies: the best couple therapy
A longitudinal study states that the divorce rate is drastically reduced when couples watch love movies and they talk about them later. The result of the study carried out by Ronald Rogge suggests "that couples know perfectly what they do right and wrong in their relationship, so you do not have to teach them much about it. The important thing is that they reflect on their behavior, and love movies can help to do so. In addition, actors often function as role models to imitate. "
5. Social networks the first cause of divorce
According to a survey of the Academy of Matrimonial Lawyers of the United States carried out in 2011, it seems that four out of five lawyers have perceived an increase in divorce cases due to the use of social networks. These generate different problems in the couple , distrust or jealousy, and as a result 1 out of 5 marriages are separated due to problems caused by the use of Facebook. In addition, two thirds of respondents say that Facebook is the first cause of divorce.
On the other hand, according to a study by Garcia Rivera, "it can be concluded that women are more bothered by their partner using Facebook. Sharing photos, activities and the "likes" that they give to other publications are the activities that cause them most problems, but despite the fact that 70% of the respondents answered yes to have problems due to the use that their partners give to Facebook, only 30% answered having had a sentimental break because of that".
6. Relationships at a distance can work
According to new research, and contrary to what most people think, distance relationships can work. There are two reasons that keep the flame alive despite the kilometers that separate the two lovers. Couples separated by distance are counted more intimate information Y they have more idealized the couple . As a result, the two often have similar levels of satisfaction and stability. Is it true?
7. Couple arguments get fat
A study of Institute of Behavioral Medicine University of Ohio states that people prone to stress, depression or mood problems, have a greater risk of gaining weight if they argue with their partner frequently, as it affects the way the body processes fats. Fights between members of the couple, cause an increase in the amount of insulin in blood, which stimulates the intake of food and the accumulation of abdominal fat.
In addition, frequent fights can make a person feel depressed and cause an excess of food intake. Being discouraged causes the abandonment of healthy lifestyle habits, such as exercise. On the other hand, people with stress and anxiety problems, can increase triglycerides , responsible for important cardiovascular diseases.
More science of love and falling in love
In this chapter of the Spanish scientific dissemination program Networks it goes deeper about lthe psychological and neuroscientific aspects linked to the process of falling in love and love . We recommend you to see it.