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Proud people: these are the 7 traits that they share

Proud people: these are the 7 traits that they share

March 26, 2024

There are people who interpret life as if it were all about a fight of egos. This has always happened, but in a context like the current one, in which both rivalry and appearances are highly valued elements, it is very common for this class of individuals, educated to become this way, to appear.

The proud people, in short , they are easily rewarded by society, and that reinforces that style of behavior and personality.

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The typical characteristics of proud people

Then we will see what are the characteristics and characteristics of the proud people who define them and distinguish them from the rest.

1. They deceive themselves

The proud nature of proud people has several costs, and one of the clearest is the need to maintain a false, bloated self-image . As a consequence, these individuals may assume risks that are too high, or directly unaffordable, and therefore go through a series of hardships and difficulties that are totally avoidable.

For example, a father who meets this psychological characteristic can access his daughter's request to build a real-size wooden boat in a couple of weeks, despite not having done anything like it before.

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2. They have to say the last word

Both inside and outside the social networks of the Internet, proud people feel the need to make clear that they win all the discussions in which they participate. Sometimes this will be true, and the use they will make of their arguments will be adequate to disarm dialectically their opponent ... however, in other cases they will have no choice but to stage a supposed victory that has never been produced .

And what is the best way to show that you have won an argument when it really is not? Easy: saying the last word. This pattern of behavior typical of proud people can lead to surreal situations in which those who have begun to discuss lengthen the conversation by adding short sentences that do not contribute anything, trying to make their contribution the one that closes the debate.

This is not only a clearly unfriendly attitude, but it greatly impedes the progress of any exchange of opinions. That is to say, it ruins the constructive potential of this kind of dialogue.

3. They have trouble asking for forgiveness

Offering an apology to others can be quite challenging for the proud people. It is not a simple problem of showing one's imperfections to others, with the strategic risk and the decompensation that this implies in some conflicts. It is something that goes beyond the objective consequences of asking for forgiveness.

The issue is, rather, in the discomfort that produces to recognize the errors because of a very idealized self-image. And it is that the incongruity between a bloated self-concept and the recognition that an error has been made they are ideas that collide with each other, produce what in psychology is known as cognitive dissonance.

So, when the circumstances arise that a proud person has to apologize, he does so through a staging, making it clear that it is not something spontaneous and honest, but something similar to a theater.

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4. Feel your ego threatened easily

For someone who places great importance on keeping their ego intact, life is a constant competition in which potential rivals constantly appear ... even if they do not present themselves as such or in an explicitly competitive context.

For example, as soon as they detect a person who excels in some quality in a way that someone may think is more skilled than them in a domain of life, this type of personality leads them to adopt a defensive attitude (not always openly hostile) and try to show off their own gifts and aptitudes.

5. They frequently talk about their past achievements

Proud people maintain their grandiose self-image, in part, by recalling those experiences of the past in which they showed off their skills or his special talents were evident. This is evident, for example, by forcing a change of subject in the conversations so that the dialogue derives towards what happened at certain moments of its past.

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6. They try not to ask for help

The myth of "the self-made person" is very strong in the mentality of proud people, who consider themselves something similar to a force independent of the rest of things that occur in nature, as if they were disconnected from the rest and everything that they would have achieved only by their own merits.

Thus, when the situation requires others to collaborate with their projects, they feel invaded and questioned , something that often leads them to adopt a defensive attitude.

7. Feel the will to have control

For the markedly proud people, the social circles over which one has influence they are like an extension of one's own body, a place in which one must try to maintain a certain order and harmony in its functioning.

It is because of this logic of thought that, when something is detected that could threaten that stability, it is viewed with suspicion whenever there is the possibility that the power that is held over part of those people (friends, family, etc.) fade or weaken.

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