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Read someone's eyes: is it possible?

Read someone's eyes: is it possible?

January 29, 2023

Being able to read the eyes of any person, woman or man , has been one of those powers that have been popularly attributed to psychologists.

While the idea that observing someone's gaze can be able to know what they think is totally false and based on exaggeration, the truth is that the signals that nonverbal language commands are very useful to know certain things about the state emotional of others.

Now ... how is it possible to get to know better what happens in the mind of a person from the observation of his eyes? Let's see it

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Communicating through the eyes

When we talk to someone face to face, a lot of our attention is focused on that person's eyes, even if we do not realize it. In normal situations, our gaze focuses on the other's eyes for more than a third of the time that we spend talking, as long as we have that person in front and looking in our direction.


This indicates, among other things, that the eyes have a great expressive power, partly because the muscles that intervene in their movement and in the adjacent areas reflect the state of emotional activation that marks each moment. We have evolved so that a small millimeter movement and almost imperceptible is a message that let us know what happens to the other without generating any noise . But, in addition, we are able to take advantage of this fact to empower it and know more about others.

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Read the eyes of women and men

The first thing to be clear is that, although there are certain psychological differences between men and women in statistical terms, they do not exist at the time of reading someone's eyes. Why? Among other things, because when it comes to experiencing emotions and responding to them all human beings are quite similar.


The muscles that control the movement of the eyes and adjacent areas do not move following patterns that show in detail what is thought, but in any case express feelings and emotions in the most basic sense. Thus, these small differences in the styles of thought of both sexes are not reflected in the gaze. Reading a woman's eyes is not significantly different from doing it with any other kind of person, for example.

If you want to know more details about the basic keys to read the look , below you can find the main ones.

1. Elevation of eyebrows

An eyebrow lift that is not exaggerated indicates that the person Pays more attention to control the way you communicate and that, somehow, he tries to "take the helm" of his expressivity in a semi-conscious way. However, if the movement is exaggerated this indicates distancing.


2. Dilation and contraction of the pupils

People can not control voluntarily if their pupils dilate or contract. This movement can be produced by many variables, such as lack or excess of light; however, it has been seen that it also influences if you see something or someone that is interesting or attractive , in which case they open up more.

3. Avoid looking into the eyes

There are two psychological aspects that can be indicated by a denial of looking the other in the eye. If this is done by keeping your eyes down or moving your eyes quickly from one side to the other, It is a sign of insecurity .

On the other hand, if the gaze is kept apart but neither looks down nor quickly sweeps the environment, this shows a feeling of superiority and dominance over the other person .

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4. The number of blinks

The blinks faithfully reflect the degree of activation of a person's brain. Someone who feels very nervous blinks more, and someone who he feels attraction for the person he is interacting with , too, since your mind is performing many operations at once.

5. Squint

This signal indicates distancing and an emotional state linked to an attitude to the defensive . For example, it may signal disbelief or the anticipation of an attack.

6. The time elapsed during eye contact

Do not just look at the contraction of the muscles of the eyes: it is also good to take into account the time factor. That is why it is relevant to know the time that is spent maintaining eye contact with someone.

If you spend a lot of time fixing your eyes on the other person's eyes, this indicates will that there is a symmetric exchange of information both sides.On the other hand, if someone establishes less visual contact, this may indicate that he hides something and that he prefers not to offer vulnerable flanks by which he can be "attacked".

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