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"Sindepi": an ingenious female method to attract real men

January 22, 2021

Relationships are complex, and having a serious relationship with someone not only depends on physical attraction, but is a constant negotiation, in which communication skills play a decisive role in maintaining stability and preventing That motivation or feeling called love does not lose strength over time.

Currently, in addition, interpersonal relationships can become superficial and interested , largely due to the values ​​and culture that go hand in hand with the capitalist system that reigns in many countries. Relationships have become commercialized, and the aesthetic component and other interests are often the reason why a couple joins.


Bauman already said that in our society "liquid love" predominates, a term that he coined in reference to the fragility of affective bonds.

  • You can know the ideas of this author in our article: "The 70 best sentences of Zygmunt Bauman"

Love or interest?

This does not mean that there are not people who surrender body and soul to their partner and that their value system makes them faithful, respectful, selfless, etc. However, there are also cases in which the bond that unites the members of a love relationship is not profound but superficial.

And despite the disputes, the specific conflicts and even the major crises, which are normal in any interpersonal relationship, because each person has their beliefs, opinions and needs, there are also couples who are together but are not respected, do not rely on the important decisions, they only seek to have intimate relationships, there is no genuine interest in the other ... and, ultimately, they do not have a common project nor will they even have it.


"Sindepi": a way to find out if your partner loves you

The culture of image and aesthetics is very present in our days, and this also has a great influence on our interpersonal relationships. As some Internet portals explain, the term "sindepi" refers to "without plucking" , specifically the genital area.

At present, there is the "hair out" style, something that especially affects women (but also many men). In the case of some women, this even affects their sexual self-esteem. In fact, as a man, I can say that some woman has preferred not to spend more intimacy with me because of not being shaved. And it's not that I imagined it, he literally told me.

Especially in the case of young people, how important is the physical aspect in a relationship? Are we really going to leave someone for the fact of not waxing? If love is liquid and if the other person does not care at all, it may be, but if love is deep, that is the least of it.


Question of self-esteem

Now, taking into account the previous example, this fact worries more the person who goes without waxing than the other individual, and this makes us reflect on how the culture of the image affects our lives, and how it makes us feel bad when we do not There is no reason to be like that.

This type of problems of the first world generate discomfort and do not allow us to relate to others in a healthy way. In reality, this way of thinking is dysfunctional, and may be the beginning of many other psychological problems related to the culture of the image.

When we do not accept our body as it is, then we expose ourselves to suffer problems such as low self-esteem or body dysmorphic disorder, which you can know in depth in our article: "Body Dysmorphic Disorder: causes, symptoms and treatment."

Critical to the "sindepi": the importance of the acceptance of our body

The concern for physical appearance is common nowadays taking into account the influence of the culture of the image in which we live immersed. But when that worry becomes too important a part of our life, it can lead us to perform self-destructive behaviors, to feel shame, anxiety and avoid situations that generate this anguish and discomfort.

The acceptance, not only of our body but also of our life in general, is key to enjoy a greater mental well-being and the emotional balance necessary to be happy.

Accepting ourselves, treating us with affection and recognizing that we are valuable and worthy of being loved and respected despite not being perfect may seem easy in theory; however, in practice it is not like that.Therefore, in our article "Self-acceptance: 5 psychological tips to achieve it" we give you some recommendations so you can get it.

How to know if your partner loves you?

Leaving aside the previous concept, there are a series of signs that can indicate if our partner wants us or is with us for interest. But what are these signs?

Your partner wants you if ...

  • It is congruent with the love that says it feels and shows it to you.
  • Intimate relationships are not the only reason he is with you.
  • It does not harm your dignity.
  • Take your opinion into account
  • You are their priority and you have a joint vision of the path you want to follow as a couple.
  • He feels happy for your achievements and your success.
  • He does things for you even if he does not like them (as long as you do them for him too).
  • Trust in you and respect you.
You can delve into these points in our article: "How to know if my partner loves me? 10 keys to discover it "

SINDEPI (January 2021).


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