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Stubborn people: 5 typical characteristics, and how to deal with them

Stubborn people: 5 typical characteristics, and how to deal with them

June 12, 2024

There is no single way to interpret what life is, what it implies for us. One of the consequences of this is that each person develops a more positive or more negative way of seeing things, and a more flexible or more rigid mentality .

And is that much of our identity is given by the way we learn to adapt to what is happening to us, our environment. Some people tend to constantly change their strategy depending on the results their plans give when they are applied to reality, and whoever happens whatever happens keeps the same beliefs, opinions and attitudes.

In this article we will see exactly what it is to be a stubborn person , and what are the characteristics of this way of being.


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5 characteristics of stubborn people

Stubbornness can be more or less positive depending on the context, but usually, supposes a limitation that leads us to not want to separate us from an idea or strategy no matter what happens . Let's see how this is translated into practice.

1. They are proud

Stubborn people are not simply because they honestly believe that the right thing to do is to continue behaving as they do. They are, in part, because the fact of giving an abrupt turn in their attitudes, opinions, strategies or style of behavior can wear down their image, revealing that an error has been made or that, simply, they are imperfect people who do not know in advance what is going to happen.


So, for them it does not matter so much the content of what they do, think or say, as the idea of ​​showing themselves consistent in what they do.

2. Improvisation is your enemy

As it happens to us all, stubborn people are forced to improvise from time to time. What happens is that in your case there is an added risk that things go wrong, because if the initial decision they take turns out to be the wrong one, it is more difficult for them to correct themselves .

This is something that they themselves know, and as a consequence, based on what they learn from their experiences, they prefer to avoid exposing themselves to situations in which they have to make important decisions in an improvised manner.

3. The theory matters more than reality

For this type of people, in many occasions, If the theory does not correspond to reality, it is reality that is wrong . This does not mean that they have a strong desire to improve the world, given that in order to do so, it would be necessary to make a reliable diagnosis of the problem on which they are going to intervene. It means that they prefer to shield themselves in that mental rigidity so as not to face that their ideas may be wrong.


4. They are interested in being seen as autonomous people

As we have seen, stubborn people want to offer an image of coherence and have a very reliable criterion of their own. That is why, although not all of them want to lead teams, they tend to enjoy the possibility of be seen as intellectual referents , people with a philosophy of life to consider.

5. They have dichotomous approaches

When clinging to a belief, stubborn people need to have a justification for not taking into account all opinions against what they do. Therefore, they often create "black lists" that lead them to dismiss the ideas of others. Everything that does not give them the reason in that sense, is out of any consideration or self-critical reflection . That way doubts disappear.

What to do when dealing with them?

When dealing with stubborn people, follow these tips.

1. Do not laugh at your mistakes

This is important, because it involves a clear confrontation. Sometimes, stubbornness can lead us to develop attitudes or behaviors that look like a caricature, but that is no reason to laugh at who keeps them. Doing so will only create discomfort and will not make you leave your error, due to the cognitive dissonance generated : they prefer to believe that the other does not know what he says to assume his mistakes.

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2. Enter the doubt

We have also seen that stubborn people are very radical in their way of thinking, and tend to see everything that goes against the belief or strategy that keeps happening as something negative. That means directly attacking that belief or idea will not be effective .

However, what is useful is to make the stubborn person begin to doubt them, drawing conclusions about what happens to take those ideas to their ultimate consequences.

3. Offers a dignified exit

It is not necessary to be clear that what was defended with stubbornness was absurd. Who has clung to a belief or attitude in a radical way , it will hardly do that in the short term. It is enough to ignore what happened and give the other person the opportunity to stop defending it blindly without raising laughter or critical comments.


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