The 8 toxic personalities that you must eliminate from your life
Toxic personalities absorb our time and energy , and many individuals are not aware of the negative impact these people have on their lives. These types of people are a source of conflict, create discomfort and stress, among many other problems.
A recent study by the Friedrich Schiller University, conducted in Germany, shows how toxic people influence the well-being of the people around them.
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How toxic people affect our brain
In this research it was found that exposure to stimuli that cause strong negative emotions (such as this type of individuals) causes the subjects to have a massive response to stress, and this stress is harmful to our thinking organ.
S Only a few days of exposure to stressful stimulus compromises the efficacy of neurons in the hippocampus , an important area of the brain responsible for reasoning and memory. One week of exposure causes reversible damage to brain cells, and months of stress can permanently destroy them. As you see, toxic people not only make you feel sad or anxious, but may leave negative long-term consequences.
Can people change?
Now, you have to be careful when it comes to labeling people. While it is true that there are individuals with a toxic personality, on many occasions (not in all), it is possible to talk and solve problems. All people can change, but they also need to do their part .
However, toxic people exist and can cause relational problems that may affect you in the long run. Whether in your circle of friends or at work, it is necessary to detect this source of stress because it can affect your well-being and quality of life.
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Toxic personalities: how to detect them?
Have you ever had a co-worker who has criticized you behind your back simply for being envious? Or a supposed friend has lied to you to get benefited in some situation without caring how it has affected you?
In situations of daily life we can find people who will hurt us, and no matter how much we put on our part, they will only want to get away with it no matter what happens. In these cases it is better to get away and surround yourself with people who bring us something positive, who add and do not remain .
There are different signs to detect a toxic personality. They are the following:
- It makes you lose the papers
- Your presence has a strong negative impact on your self-esteem
- He blames you when he is the culprit
- You feel fear and discomfort when you have to be with him
- You can not be relaxed and calm in his presence
- You are defensive when you approach
Types of toxic personalities
Of course, before blaming others it is necessary to look at oneself, because many times we can focus on others to excuse our own behavior. Sometimes it is the relationship itself (in which we both participate) that leads a person to behave negatively toward us.
Individuals with toxic personalities, however, tend to behave the same with other people and in other situations. But… What types of toxic personality can we find? Below you can find a list of toxic personalities.
A toxic personality trait is selfishness. The selfish people are those who do not want to share anything with us, but when something interests them they are pleasant.
They are manipulators and can appear to be our friends, but their only goal is to obtain something in return. They are not a real friendship and we will not be able to deepen our feelings with them or give them our confidence. Selfish people, sooner or later, will bring out their true personality.
On the other hand, who stands out for their selfishness is also characterized by rejecting the idea of creating networks of collaboration and cooperation, because if this attitude begins to become popular, their ability to refuse to share can make them isolated. The idea is, then, to make individualism prevail in almost all cases, except in those in which that person needs something from others.
Envious people always want what another person has and they can not have , and therefore, they will never be happy that the others are doing well. This situation is not healthy neither for the person who is victim nor for the envious, and behind the envy there is always a low self-esteem, frustration and pain.
Envy happens because these people do not focus their happiness inside.Spending too much time around envious people is dangerous because you will feel a great grudge towards you and towards the people around you.
The manipulators steal time and energy from the person under the facade that "nothing bad happens" . They have the facility to convince you even in those topics that do not suit you and to take you along the path they want, without qualms and without caring about the negative consequences that a situation may have for you.
The manipulators detect the weaknesses of others, they do not stop until they get what they want, they are insatiable and they want to always have control.
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Undoubtedly, one of the worst personalities that we can find is that of the abuser, but unfortunately, abuse is a phenomenon that can occur not only in relationships but in school (what is known as bullying) or at work (what is known as mobbing). Better to get away from these people because they usually hide a great hatred inside them .
- The abuse does not have to be physical, it can also be psychological. If you want to know how an abusive person is: "Profile of the psychological abuser: 21 features in common"
Intolerant people are people who are full of prejudice and, therefore, they allow themselves to be influenced by stereotypes and by the ideas of something or someone accepted as a pattern of qualities or behaviors.
Instead of appreciating and learning from people who are different from them, people who judge others look at other individuals with contempt. By not being objective people, better get away from them.
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The authoritarian personality is what prevails in dictators , but these features can also be presented by people who are not in government (even though they act as if they had a very high share of power).
This type of individuals have undemocratic behaviors and pretend to exercise control over the people around them, based on the idea that they are the ones who can best decide what is good and what is bad. Consciously or unconsciously, they do not listen to others and those around them, because they think that the only valid criterion is theirs and they want everyone to obey them.
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Sociopaths are those people who show no empathy for others or remorse for their actions , and although they have a normal temperament, they have not acquired a series of social skills due to the negligent and incompetent upbringing of their family, which in many cases involves situations of violence.
They may seem like lovely people to meet them, but in the long run they show negative behaviors that affect the people around them, among other things, because they do not see others as their equals and therefore do not empathize.
- You can deepen this type of personality in our article: "Differences between psychopathy and sociopathy"
Neuroticism is what is known as emotional instability. We all can have a certain degree of neuroticism, but those who present a high degree of it and do nothing to regulate it and try to make their interpersonal relationships work, usually pose a big problem for members of their social circles. This is because they do not tolerate the small frustrations and setbacks that the interaction with others brings naturally and irremediably.
The emotional instability has its origin in the low self-esteem and irrational beliefs that are part of the mental schemes of the person, which leads them to be perfectionists and to focus their happiness on external factors. They are people who usually live on an emotional roller coaster and can have childish behaviors .