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The mathematics of sexual pleasure in men and women

The mathematics of sexual pleasure in men and women

May 3, 2024

The next one is the graphic representation of female and male sexual arousal curves . The curve to the left corresponds to that of the men and to the right is that of women.

The simplicity and speed of the masculine curve with respect to the feminine curve is easily observed, as expected. We also see that at the end of the feminine curve there are four different options, this represents four types of orgasmic response in women.

These curves represent levels of arousal during a sexual relationship. It is necessary to clarify that these representations collect general values ​​in the population and that each person is different and has a particular sexual response. But we go to the detail of the graph.

First, five superimposed curves are actually shown here. First, the masculine one to the left of the graph, followed by the female sexual response that has a common part, the phases of intimacy, excitement and tension , and according to the sexologist Marina Castro, leads to four possible responses: Explosive orgasm (E), Multiorgasmic (M), Sustained orgasm (S) and No orgasm (SO).

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Male excitement curve: brief and predictable

The male curve represents the level of excitement in a context of sexual activity with genital contact . This means that if the man is excited and manipulated genitally either by another person in a sexual relationship with a partner or by himself in a masturbation situation, his arousal response is very fast as shown by the ascending slope that culminates in the orgasm , the maximum point of the graph, to descend in free fall to the basal level or zero excitation. Therefore the orgasm is a final point of excitement and often of sexual intercourse.

Here we have an important problem and source of conflicts in the couple : if the man focuses on his excitement and search for orgasm, the party will be over for him when the woman has not begun to hear the music of a party that will have little festive and that will end without having enjoyed a sad canapé . In a few seconds we will have a man snoring with a childish smile and a woman on the warpath wanting to strangle that smile. Later we will see what can be done about it.

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Female excitement curve: complex and intense

The feminine curve is much greater in time , it can develop in different ways and has several possible endings, it can even be coupled to another cycle of excitement without having finished the first one. We see that the complexity in the excitement of women is much greater and so is the ability to obtain pleasure and enjoy sex, being indisputable that it is the woman who dominates over man in terms of sexual pleasure and wealth of orgasms.

Observing the curve we see that the initial excitation slope is much smoother, it needs much more time to approach high levels of excitation. We can also observe that the orgasm is different from the male and sometimes or some women do not reach it and we also see that the resolution phase is in almost all cases very different from the masculine one, with a soft fall or a cyclical recovery towards another orgasms.

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How do we measure pleasure mathematically?

Mathematics comes into play here. If the curves on the graph represent five possible subjects, one man and four women, who experiences more pleasure? Some could say that those who have the maximum points, namely the man and the woman with explosive orgasm. In these two cases, we find the maximum levels of arousal, but not of pleasure .

Sexual pleasure is the level of excitement for the time that we maintain this level and this is mathematically defined by the area of ​​the region under the graph of each curve. But before continuing we will give some notions of analytical calculation, one of my favorite areas of mathematics, and specifically on integrals.


Let's see its graphic representation:

The symbol that looks like an elongated S is the symbol of the integral. f (x) is the mathematical function with which the curve of the graph is represented, a and b are the initial and final points between which the integral is bounded, and d (x) is a mathematical term that refers to the independent variable and that you can be grateful that does not explain because it exceeds the object of this article, and I assure you that it is very far from any relationship with any orgasm. But that's what we're going for. Can we do a mathematical analysis of sexual pleasure and orgasm?

If we analyze the curve of sexual arousal shown at the beginning, we see that sexual pleasure is the integral of the function of the curve between points a and b, where a = 0, starting point in time and b is the final point to integrate, where the excitation returns to the initial level and the curve decays to the lower or abscissa axis.

What sex dominates in bed?

If we mathematically measure the sexual pleasure of man and woman, there is no doubt that women are the strong sex.

If we call fh the function that represents the graph of sexual excitement of man and fm to that of women, we have to:

This means that according to our graph, the pleasure obtained by any of the women represented whatever their orgasmic resolution is superior to the short pleasure obtained by man.

All this suggests several things:

  1. The male priority in the relationship should be the pursuit of pleasure and not of the orgasm since this is a brief moment of high excitement that follows with a sudden fall that puts an end to the relationship and pleasure itself.
  2. The maximum sexual pleasure in the couple is achieved by matching the male and female curves , this is a work mainly of the man to focus on the excitement of his partner and forget or rather flee from his own orgasm.

Also keep in mind that only 25 percent of women safely experience orgasm during intercourse, and knowing the terrible orgasmic consequences of intercourse, we must think of something else.

Male and female sexual response coupling

After investigating the different sexual responses of men and women we can understand many of the problems that we can find personally as well as the vision that people can have about sex according to their particular experience. We can even understand collectives, or conceptions about sexuality throughout history and different cultures.

But how can we make a sexual relationship as pleasurable as possible for both women and men? The first thing to work is the inclination of the male curve to approach the female, for this the man must avoid focusing on your arousal and genitals to concentrate on the excitement of your partner. At this point it is convenient for man to find the secret of his wife's excitement and it is very easy: ask him what he likes!

It is very likely that she gets excited with words, with stories or fantasies, with caresses, kisses to the extent and intensity that she tells you. That curve of such a smooth excitement will increase, and from here on man it is convenient to avoid own orgasm. Remember that the male orgasm is the abrupt end of the excitement of man and often marks the end of the sexual relationship, so an important recommendation for mutual sexual enjoyment is this: the orgasm of the man must go after the woman

The simultaneous orgasm as objective is one of the great myths of sexuality, it can be achieved after much experience and complicity in the relationship, but this should not be the goal.

As we have already indicated, the longer the levels of intimacy, excitement and especially sexual tension are maintained, the greater will be the graphs in time and the greater the integral. If we represent this mathematically, we see that the maximum sexual pleasure (Pmax) is equal to the sum of the maximum pleasure of the man and that of the woman, this is the pleasure obtained during the maximum time (tmax), where the pleasure of both is almost identical and here we have the much desired formula of maximum sexual pleasure:

I hope that this mathematical approach to sexual relationships has been suggestive, pleasurable and, perhaps, exciting.

Let's Talk About Sex: The Reality of the Sexual Pleasure Disparity | Grace Wetzel | TEDxStLawrenceU (May 2024).

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