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The "Porqueyolovalguismo": the narcissistic philosophy applied to daily life

June 21, 2024

We have spoken on several occasions about narcissism. This way of being close to the pathological refers to those people whose admiration for themselves is exaggerated .

Of course, this way of thinking also crystallizes in actions and attitudes that are palpable on a day-to-day basis. As the classic slogan of the shampoo brand used to say The real, are individuals who move through life making ostentation of the maxim "because I'm worth it". This is the origin of the concept of "porqueyolovalguismo", which I will stop to explain in today's article .

Opportunities and context

Contextualize. Both in Spain and in most Latin American nations, we have suffered serious economic crises that have plunged us into a cultural situation where a job is almost a blessing. With an unemployment rate of over 25% and almost 50% in young people in southern Europe, it is not surprising that their mentality regarding work has mutated.

In the previous context, of relative abundance of job opportunities, workers had the possibility of rejecting certain offers that did not meet certain requirements (salary, hours, distance) ... Workers could not accept certain jobs that did not give them a stimulus ; After all, in a matter of a short time they could find something more according to their preferences and demands. After the ravages of the crisis, the situation is no longer the case.

Unfortunately, and until there is a Universal Basic Income that guarantees the material subsistence of citizens, we have to continue working "of whatever" in order to maintain ourselves. In a scenario of total shortage of job opportunities, this mentality has almost completely disappeared: we are totally committed to accept any labor proposal , although the remuneration or other characteristics of the offer are of our displeasure.

The "porqueyolovalguismo" in the culture of non-effort

Of course, that there is an urgent need to accept any job offer is very bad news for our society. It is a clear sign that a country does not have enough development of the productive fabric to provide a variety of proposals and projects (labor and life) to its citizens.

How do we react to this situation? Most people try to adapt to this new reality and resigned, assume that there is no choice but to pull ahead and accept "what there is." It is a mentality that runs the risk of falling into what the psychologist Bertrand Regader qualifies as 'satisfied slave syndrome', that is, in a neuroticism adapted to a directly unacceptable situation.

At the other extreme we find the "porqueyolovalguismo". Individuals who basically believe they deserve all the best and are not willing to accept that their employer does not pay them what they think they deserve. They are individuals who have a very high concept of themselves , to the point of showing aggressive tendencies towards those who do not recognize and praise their supposed 'qualities'; people who believe that this planet has been placed at their disposal for their complete enjoyment and enjoyment, so that they can deplete from it the greatest possible benefits and, if possible, at a cost of personal effort equivalent to zero.

We speak of a symptom not only present in the workplace, but generalized to practically all aspects of life in which the individual "because and the courageous person" can show off his or her peculiar way of being.

The attitudes of the individual "porqueyolovalgo"

We are not going to look for culprits or causers, because we do not consider it to be the function of this writing. However, it would not be unreasonable to point out that, in the globalized world where we live (in which concepts such as "privacy" or "privacy" have been relegated to oblivion), social networks have influenced when accentuate the behavior of many people who already had a tendency to a high ego .

The possibility of publishing our experiences on platforms such as Facebook, Instagram or Twitter has caused a change in the needs of these people anxious for the approval of others: the search for "likes" or positive comments from friends in the RRSS in photos, comments or personal opinions contribute to enhance the ego and self-esteem of those who receive it, which reinforces the possibility of repeating the action in the future, always with the mentality of getting as much impact as possible.

The more attention received, the more motives these people will have to assume that they should tell more about themselves and show as many 'relevant' aspects of their day-to-day as they can, in a fantasy assumed that their "followers" are anxious to know what new there is in the life of the "porqueyolovalgo".

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Protagonists of his own life ... and that of others

In their mentality, in which they are the absolute protagonists and everything revolves around them, the "porqueyolovalgo" legitimize their arrogance based on a false belief (but very real for them) that we must thank them for having existed and for giving to others with their mere presence, as a new form of vassalage in the XXI century, in which we are expected to bow and kiss the ground they walk on and applaud all their behaviors, however reprehensible they may be.

As we say in Spain, these subjects are "delighted to know each other", which is the expression by antonomasia that catalogs and defines the attitude towards life of those who consider that their way of thinking, criteria, competence or talent is better than the rest .

By way of conclusion: rejecting moral superiority

Of course, this text does not aim to put in the spotlight those people who love themselves or consider that they can contribute to the society in which they are integrated. We must distinguish between a healthy self-esteem and a swollen and exaggerated self-esteem .

The reprehensible of the individuals "porqueyolovalgo" is their tendency to exhibit their moral superiority with respect to other people. Free will can not be justified blindly in a context of coexistence and sharing of common spaces and resources. As we said at the beginning of this writing, although many consider that they can dispose of the greatest number of benefits without making any contribution in this regard (we do not know if due to lack of sensitivity, maturity, empathy or pure and simple unconsciousness), the rest of us are not We must not allow people to trample on our rights or try to justify their privileges based on their pride.

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