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This is how others judge us through the Internet

This is how others judge us through the Internet

April 17, 2024

The popularization of Internet use during the last 15 years has not simply made us connect more and more to the network of networks. In addition to using the resources to which we have access thanks to this brilliant invention, many people who make regular use of social networks have experienced how their self-esteem has been connected to the public image they give online .

And if there are people who notice how their well-being or discomfort depends in part on what happens on the Internet, it is precisely because we are Constantly judging who is behind those Facebook profiles, Instagram or similar. Even if we do not realize it, we generate a positive or negative emotional response to the self-referential contents that others publish.


We can choose whether or not to be interested in what others think of us, but the truth is that regardless of that, wherever there is a publication of ours, there will be people valuing you, usually in an unsound way.

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How we judge ourselves through the Internet

Below you can see some samples of how much one tends to judge others from just a few photos and status updates.

The positivity is better valued

It has been found that people who tend to make negative publications, such as social complaint content or complaints about studies, tend to be less valued. But nevertheless, the excess of joy in status updates and photographs It generates an artificial feeling that seems to have been created to deceive others.


We must bear in mind that a person can understand a social network as a space in which to express their stress or raise others' awareness based on criticism, without that saying much about his personality . In the same way, others may want to use Facebook photo albums as a compilation of happy images, and that does not say much about them either. However, we ignore this reflection and believe that what is on the Internet is a direct reflection of the personality, leading us to reject or accept that person.

Sensibility before the boasting

We tend to show a special sensitivity to publications that can be interpreted as a show of boasting. In fact, in general, the assessment we make of someone is more positive if the number of publications that talk about achievements and personal qualities It is reduced.


Thus, something as innocent as celebrating that we have won in a karate championship makes us value ourselves worse, although this is more important to us than much other content we have published before (music videos, memes, etc.).

Instead of that, one sees with a better eye what has to do with opinions about events that are alien to oneself, or that occur around them, but that are not a direct reflection of their qualities. For example:

Visiting the temple of the Sagrada Familia in Barcelona. The facade is incredible.

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Why on the Internet are we so hard at valuing others?

When we see hundreds of publications of several people on the Internet, we tend to be guided by much less rational intuitions when it comes to deciding who is worth and who is not. That means that we adopt totally biased and irrational ways of thinking without making us feel strange.

In short, we have a lot of information about the others, but this gives few details and therefore is of poor quality; so that, our way of judging those people is also quick and lazy .

How about we use the chat more?

Keep in mind that these psychological biases when judging others through the Internet are given, basically, when there is no interaction: someone publishes something and the other person sees it. What happens if instead of staying in that passive attitude we start conversations? After all, a conversation in a chat is much more like a face-to-face interaction , situations in which we are accustomed to be more moderate when it comes to making judgments about how the other is.

Some researchers believe that the solution to that kind of paranoia that torments many people afraid of causing a bad image on the Internet is, simply, talk more, show how we are inside in a context of real-time conversation. In this way, those filters that keep us away from others begin to lose prominence; we force ourselves to devote time and a certain effort to take part in an exchange of phrases, which makes us imply and think that if we are bothering to do that, it will be because the other person deserves us not to rush at the time of judge her The chats can be confraternity spaces in the individualistic and fragmentary reality of the Internet.

Bibliographic references:

  • Scott, G. G., & Ravenscroft, K. (2017). Bragging on Facebook: The interaction of content and focus in online impression formation. Cyberpsychology, Behavior, and Social Networking, 20(1), 58-63.
  • Walther, J.B., Van Der Heide, B., Hamel, L.M., et al. (2009).Self-generated versus other-generated statements and impressions in computer-mediated communication: A test of the warranting theory using Facebook. Communication Research, 36, 229-252.

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