What you're missing by staying in your comfort zone
Although its name is not the most suitable representation, the comfort zone is one of the biggest dangers when it comes to progress as an individual and develop a life plan.
What is the comfort zone?
The comfort zone is a behavioral state in which the individual remains in a situation of neutral anxiety , to simply follow a series of behaviors in order to have the minimum level of performance without sense of risk.
This means that the individual will avoid any kind of effort or situation that makes him feel uncomfortable or with which he is not familiar; thus avoiding the possible and diverse rewards that you can get in your daily life either in a work or personal environment.
Why is it so important to leave the comfort zone?
Because outside of it you will have the best experiences of your life and you will contribute a lot to your personal growth .
Maybe you've always wanted to go around the world, learn to play an instrument, try to get a better job than you have or study something that you love. Why have not you done it yet?
Well, it is possible that your comfort zone is playing tricks on you, drawing you towards it and not letting you out. The question is that anything that our brain does not know, will be afraid of it. Our instincts want to keep us safe and in the face of an unusual situation (like living abroad or making a radical change in our life) the alarm will jump so we can return to our comfort zone.
But you must know that the most wonderful things in life happen, precisely, outside of it .
Personal growth; our partner outside the comfort zone
Have a source of motivation, learn to be tolerant with ourselves and with others, understand the needs that others have, understand what they feel, accept our failures and learn from them, always find new solutions to our day-to-day problems , to live new experiences and above all to never stop learning, regardless of the activity in which the learning is being developed; these are the direct consequences of an optimal personal growth .
Personal growth is given as a life project; It is a plan that although it may not be quick and instantaneous, in the long term it may be the best way to progress as an individual and understand how to live life fully, turning weaknesses into strengths, achieving a harmonization between our thoughts and actions.
Increasing our knowledge and understanding of what surrounds us can allow us to take the first steps on the path of personal growth.
For example: the fact of learning a new language allows us to open the doors to enter different parts of the world, if we travel we will become more tolerant, we will learn from different cultures, we will become much more sociable and we will learn to communicate with the world in a way much more efficient.
Promote activities in our lives that are synonymous with progress , is the main objective to develop as integral individuals that have always been in constant personal growth. In short, if there is something you have always wanted to do, now is the time. You never know what is going to be unleashed later.
How coaching helps us get out of our comfort zone
Coaching is defined as a method that consists of teaching, instructing, training and accompanying a person or to a group of people with the objective of meeting the goals of these or develop specific skills for the activity in which progress is sought.
The coaching process (phases to achieve the objectives)
Coaching takes place in 5 simple steps, a good method of instruction is based on the following :
- The observation of the different points of view This is fundamental since the person receiving the training will find solutions and will be able to allow the individual to choose among the different options that he has to reach the proposed goals.
- The awareness in the given situation : the trainer will show the individual the different choices he takes and the consequences of these, giving him specific tools to choose consciously and in an optimal way.
- It is extremely important to establish the objectives . Without clearly defined objectives, the goal to be achieved will not be clear in the individual or the coach.
- Carry out the necessary actions to reach this goal : It is not enough simply to define the objectives; they have to be done following a time to make them, establishing a good schedule for their development
- See that the plan is on the right track and that results are obtained ; otherwise, you must check what the fault is and correct it
If you are lost and do not know where to begin to change your life, you have two options: the first is to hire a good coach, but it may not be a profitable option for you because you simply can not afford it economically. Even so, there is a second option, to become yourself as a personal coach by reading personal development self-help books.
Two coaching books that teach us the benefits of leaving the comfort zone
There are many very well-known books on the subject, but far from repeating the same books that you probably have already heard, I will recommend two, which may not be as well known, but have a very powerful message to give:
«Coaching for success: the 4 steps to change your life», by Marina R Pinto
Of Marina R. Pinto , a Spanish author, addresses each of the elements that make up personal coaching in such a simple and digestible way, that it will become your best tool to become a different person. The reading is quite agile and is written in the second person, which makes it a pretty fun book. Talk about converting your life in 4 steps:
Step 1: Become a more optimistic person
Negative thoughts and attitudes are the first predators of dreams. Therefore, it is important to start thinking more positively and start being more optimistic, regardless of the circumstances you are going through.
And although it is easier to say it than to do it, in this book the reader is given the tools to learn to be more positive , specifying the differences between thought, emotion and feeling, among other aspects, such as the influence of our own beliefs on ourselves.
Step 2: Clean your life of everything that hinders you
Negative thoughts, counterproductive emotions, bad habits ... In this part, he proposes to eliminate everything that does not do you good and prevents you from fulfilling your dreams . It will also tell you about the fear of failure and how to deal with it if it appears.
Step 3: Be proactive
Without action you will not be able to clear the way to achieve your dreams . This is the lesson of life that nurtures the third step. In this part the author will talk about how to organize to plan your goals, what steps you have to take, planning techniques to get extra time for your projects, and most importantly, how to get out of the comfort zone to start your new life.
Step 4: The road is more important than the destination
The tacit message of this fourth step lies in the importance of understanding that it is the most important thing to fulfill our dreams . Obviously achieving a desired goal is very rewarding, but it is even more important to realize that along the way, after overcoming obstacles and finding solutions, we have grown as people. The main objective of the last chapter is to invite reflection on our own actions.If you are interested, you can buy the book in this link
«30 days: change habits, change of life», by Marc Reklau
Marc Reklau In this book, he proposes to acquire a new habit every day to help you start walking around the world in a different way. The book consists of about 90 short chapters, very easy and quick to read. The topics he addresses are very similar to those in the book "Coaching for success": negative thoughts, achievement of objectives, new habits to contribute to our psychological health, personal growth, etc.
To buy the book, click on this link