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Why do I hate the whole world? Causes and possible solutions

Why do I hate the whole world? Causes and possible solutions

September 13, 2022

Misanthropy, or hatred of all people in general , it can come in many forms. However, it always has to do with past experiences; No one is predestined to take wrong with humanity.

Knowing this is very important because, like the "hatred of the whole world" appears in acquired form Through learning and interpreting what is happening to us, it is also possible to unlearn it, to reconcile with others.

And why was a misanthrope or misanthrope wanting to change? Well, certainly not everyone has to want that, but those who have entered this article for the title is very likely that, at least, they are curious about the psychological mechanisms that explain this phenomenon and how they can be reversed.

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When you systematically disparage others

There are people who, by default, disparage others or simply abhor the company . This can make them, paradoxically, feel lonely and misunderstood and, also, notice that this affects them in their professional, student or civil face in general.

That is why very possibly many are considering how to get out of this vicious circle of hatred.

The causes

Hate to others can be understood as a form of learned helplessness. This concept serves to designate cases in which it has been learned to dissociate what is done with what is obtained in a negative sense, that is to say, that it has been assumed that, whatever is done, it is not going to get nothing good from it.

In this case, what does not produce any benefit (or that produces more inconvenience and discomfort than pleasant experiences) is social life, in general. From past experiences, it has been assumed that everyone betrays, lies or tries to take advantage of others.

In other words, it is assumed that others have a corrupt morality or who are incompetent and that this is part of the majority essence of people, and this makes one stop looking for joyful and stimulating experiences with others and, in many cases, tends to live in relative isolation.

How to stop hating and reconcile with the rest

There are ways to turn the situation around and stop hating those around us in a systematic way.

In cases of misanthropy based on serious traumas, it is very possible that it is necessary to resort to psychotherapy, but in more moderate cases in which it is noted that the relationship with a large number of known people is unusually bad , you can choose to change your philosophy of life on your own.

Some points to start with are the following:

1. Think about the context of your memories

Imagine the memories that you think have the most influence on your perception of others and analyzes in context in which they occurred . A long time ago? Did everyone else have the blame? They were really cruel, or was that idea born of the exaggerations that appeared after it happened?

2. Make lists of positive traits

Use your imagination and think of positive characteristics of those who dislike you or hate you, no matter how strange they seem to you, but what do you think that they fit the reality .

3. Reflect on how you judge others

Stop thinking about how you attribute negative characteristics to others. You do having all the necessary information about them ? Do you consider the context and social norms that you also follow when you relate to others?

4. Analyze your expectations

What basic characteristics do you think someone should have to like your company and their affection? Are they reasonable, or are they too many and too precise?

5. Think from the point of view of someone good that you want to know

Imagine that you are a person that meets the basic characteristics that someone should (in theory) fulfill so that you feel good by their side. Would you be able to recognize it if you acted as you always do when you meet someone new?

6. Get out more and interact with like-minded people

Self-oblige to relate more with others, leave your comfort zone. Set specific social goals (such as going to a dinner party to which you have been invited) and fill them to the letter, make it a priority. If you start dealing with people with whom you share likes Regardless of your personality, it is easier for you to connect with some of them. Later you can propose to expand your social horizons.

7. Surround yourself with cheerful people

Find people who are genuinely cheerful and spend time with them. In this way you will associate the company of the others with the moments of humor and having fun and you will have more desire to repeat the experience, which will make it harder for you to assume that you will always be hating others.

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