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Why there are more and more young people living with their parents

Why there are more and more young people living with their parents

May 26, 2024

Recently, the number of young people under the age of 18 to 35 who live in their parents' house has exceeded that of people of the same age group who live with their partner in the United States. In the middle of the 20th century, the seconds doubled in number to the first.

In Spain this trend has also occurred: more than 78% of people between 16 and 29 years of age live with their parents, something that had never been registered in recent decades, according to the Observatory of Emancipation. The moment of becoming independent each time occurs later .

Why this trend? The causes that explain this phenomenon are material and economic, but also psychological.


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A choice or a need?

Part of this tendency to stay at home is not the result of a decision, but of necessity. In Spain, for example, the youth unemployment rate is so high that the difficulty of finding a well-paid job prevents many young people from becoming emancipated . In addition, among the young people who work, instability prevails: in Catalonia, approximately 85% of new contracts are temporary.

Given the responsibility that requires starting to build a life in common, the lack of money means that people under 30 have less freedom to become independent.


More and more singles

Another reason that explains the low number of people living with their partner and not their parents is that, simply, people stay single for longer .

Decades ago, the idea of ​​forming a family was practically an imperative, but currently there are many people who decide not to commit. One of the reasons is that among women economic dependence on the figure of man is increasingly smaller, and on the other hand new lifestyles prevail over individualism over the importance of the nuclear family.

The idea of ​​enjoying life more freely means that young people have less reason to find a partner and start a life together sharing everything. Increasingly, singleness is seen as the "default civil status", whereas previously people who did not live with a partner were seen as a future family project. Already it is not necessary to look for an excuse to justify why a family has not been formed , and this makes us more likely to see the possibility of returning to live with parents as something more attractive and with some advantages.


At the same time, the new paradigms of affectivity, such as polyamory, have made coexistence and love life dissociated a little more. It is no longer so strange to be in open relationships in which the most unusual thing is living in the same house or apartment.

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A deeper union with parents

Another of the psychological factors that explain the growing tendency to emancipate later is simply that the relationships between parents and children seem to have become closer and more satisfying through the passage of generations.

The frequency with which parents and children share moments in which affective bonds are narrowed has grown since the mid-twentieth century, and is not only a consequence of the need to live at home: this is a trend that was registered much earlier of the 2008 financial crisis.

The same has happened with the subjective feeling of well-being that fathers, mothers and their sons and daughters say they experience in the company of the other family generation. The way in which personal relationships have evolved within the family have led to a closer and more empathetic treatment than what happened decades ago. This has been helped by the abandonment of very rigid rules and the emphasis placed on the authority of the father, who came to adopt an authoritarian and cold role.

Now, emotions are expressed more directly, and family members are not so reluctant to show their feelings and seek emotional support from others. This makes coexistence, in many aspects, more bearable, and that living under the same roof as the parents seems, in fact, an attractive option (and in many ways, comfortable).

A professional career for free

Previously, it was normal for only one member of the family to work outside the home, while the rest depended on him. Currently this is not possible: the adults in the house must go out and earn money to support the family.

This has led to a new work mentality, according to which each one has to be, in the first place, your own economic engine . The consequence of this is that living with parents is a possibility that is seen as another resource to progress towards self-sufficiency, whereas previously this option did not make so much sense.


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