Emotional blocks: what are they and how can we overcome them?
The emotional block It is a psychological barrier that we impose on ourselves and that prevents us from discerning clearly in some aspects of life.
Everyone, at some point in our lives, will notice this type of psychological blocks. When they occur, our sensation is one of total loss of control over the situation and about ourselves. We are paralyzed, without response to the context we are living. Our emotions kidnap us and do not let us move forward. In today's article We will try to discover what are the causes, the symptoms and the keys to understand this phenomenon .
Discovering and controlling emotional blocks
In addition, emotional blocks They have the ability to make it difficult for us to move forward when it comes to achieving certain goals of our lives . We may be able to develop our life normally, however, at some point in life we may suffer a blockage. Some people, for example, are highly trained in the workplace and yet, at the time of establishing stable relationships, they get stuck and fail to develop as they would like.
Thus, others can perform adequately in the sentimental field and just happen to the opposite in the workplace: they can not find a job that satisfies them. Or apparently everything is going well in the office, but they do not make themselves known as they really are because of insecurity. This makes them show a mask to others in order to feel more secure, thus preventing themselves from being themselves, as if they were somehow emotionally bound.
Some examples of emotional block
There are several signs and signals that can warn us that someone suffers from emotional blockage .
For example, not wanting to act out of fear of failure, not participating in events, feeling afraid to look bad, dread of being rejected or not being accepted, shyness or shame, lack of motivation, pessimism and inability to see solutions to an obstacle, envy , jealousy, superficially judging others without daring to deepen and understand how they are.
Fear and insecurity, and also feeling inferior to the rest, are the most frequent causes of emotional blockage. At present, the economic and social situation predisposes us to a greater extent to suffer this type of blockages .
This is because the collective perception of the negative reality that surrounds us influences us unconsciously as individuals who are part of a group, so we could be talking about that there is a negative social atmosphere, in which certain values prevail, such as competitiveness and pragmatism . These values can collide with the need that we all have to feel included, loved and supported in the social group. In other words, when we do not find a social group where we feel represented and identified, we tend to suffer identity crises that can lead to feelings of low self-confidence.
How can we eliminate the emotional block?
If our emotions are positive, joy, creativity, motivation and spontaneity arise . For example, suppose that we have been unemployed for quite some time, that they quote us for interviews and that we always get the same negative response. This can cause us to believe that it is no longer worth the effort involved or even move. Thus, without realizing, we ourselves mentally predispose ourselves to emotional blocks preventing us from finding a solution to such a situation. It is a vicious circle from which it is difficult to escape.
In the same way, in our day to day we come to thoughts of futility and uneasiness, as for example: "why should I go ...?", "I know they are not going to hire me", "there are more qualified candidates", "They will notice that I am nervous", "with the time that I have been unemployed and the age I am", I am no longer able "," I will fail ".
Fighting negative thinking
This kind of pessimistic thinking blocks us in such a way that later, at the moment of the interview, what we transmit in a non-verbal way is unconsciously perceived by the interviewer. And if what you transmit is negativity ... we are not going to be a very desirable candidate.
If you are not convincing with yourself, you empty yourself constantly, you think you have no possibility, etc., you are bound to remain always in this situation of immobility. To eliminate the blockade, we must acquire a positive perspective of reality , so that if you are emotionally well there will be no blockages and you will be able to express yourself more fluently. Try to think of things that bring out positive emotions.
Although initially you find yourself uneasy, try to think positive, for example: "I am a very valid person", "I believe in myself", "if they do not choose me, I will have learned from this experience for the next interview" ... this way you will be predisposing that new structures are created in your brain that naturally guide your thoughts , so that, what we think mentally is transmitted in the image we give of ourselves ..
Dismantling Murphy's Law: bad luck does not exist
The "Law of Murphy" states the following: "If something can go wrong, it will go wrong", so that, if the toast always falls on the side of the butter on the ground, it is because we undoubtedly have bad luck. It happens the same if we extrapolate it with the emotional blockade, for example when we think: "they never take me, surely in this interview the same thing will happen".
Nothing could be further from the truth . The Law of Murphy, the only thing that simply comes to say is that: "if something can happen, it will happen". If we really feel empowered to make something happen, the chances of it happening will increase amazingly.
Reflecting on the blocks
There is a theory in quantum physics, called "Schrödinger's cat". This suggests that, at the level of particle physics, a cat inside a box with a poison capsule that can be broken at any moment will be alive and dead at the same time. This also applies to emotional blockage, If fear grips us, we will never be able to find out if we had achieved what we had in mind . So if we do not have the courage to open the box, we will remain blocked.
When we truly believe ourselves capable and confident in ourselves, we convey an aura of confidence that others without being aware intuitively perceive. Often something attracts us from another person and it may be that self-confidence, so that you must take care of your thoughts and not let negative thoughts keep you from progressing.
- Cortés de Aragón, L. (1999). Self esteem. Comprehension and Practice Saint Paul.
- Mc Clelland, D and Atkinson J. (1985). Motivation and Emotion Mc Graw Hill.