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All there is to know about sexual fantasies

All there is to know about sexual fantasies

April 2, 2024

Fantasizing is not an activity exclusively for children and adults who look like children. Fortunately, it is a capacity that all human beings have and that we can use throughout our lives.

Sexual fantasies

Fantasear is simple: roughly, you just have to let the imagination run . Thus, imagining other realities, we can experience all kinds of experiences. Mind you, in the mind.

On the sexual level, in a private and personal way, we can be able to let ourselves be carried away by our erotic thoughts and interweave mind, body and emotions, being able to live tremendously pleasurable experiences, and even, to unleash the sexual response.


You just have to find and press the ON button of fantasies.

When do we start to fantasize? What are sexual fantasies nourished from, and how do they evolve?

As explained by the sexual therapist Wendy Maltz in his book "The intimate world of female sexual fantasies", women begin to fantasize in childhood, with more romantic or sensual ideas, evolving over time to more sexual ideas.

The development of fantasies seems to be closely related to sexual development, and in turn, to the experiences that are experienced, the culture and the information that is collected regarding sexuality throughout life.


It is important then, to fill the box of our fantasies with everything that stimulates us. It is necessary to look for sources of inspiration, that place the senses of the person right in the exit box of the path of the erotic , always willing to seek pleasure.

Types of sexual fantasies

This question is complicated if one starts from the fact that everything is valid in the mind: strictly speaking, there are fantasies of all kinds. The theme is as varied as how different are the tastes of one and the other. However, there is a classification that is interesting to mention, since it can provide a deeper knowledge about one's sexuality.

As explained by Maltz, sexual fantasies can be classified into fantasies fictionalized and fantasies not fictionalized .

The novel fantasies develop as a true story, with characters and relationships between them. The roles of the protagonist, usually vary from dominance, where power and control are the characteristic elements, to a sweet and beautiful role of beloved, where affection, intimacy or spiritual attraction, are the predominant. But there can also be victim roles, where fear or even violence makes its appearance; of wild, being understood this one like a free paper, without power nor control; of object of desire, or simply, of voyeur.


On the other hand, there are fantasies that are not fiction. These fantasies are totally linked to the sensory capacities that humans have. They are not stories like the previous ones, but they are visual, auditory, tactile stimuli, etc. those that cause us pleasure by imagining them in the mind.

How are your fantasies ?, Do you mount real movies in your head or are your senses that take you to pleasure paradises?

In any case, be of the type that fantasies are, the most important thing is to give permission to fantasize, free of guilt, censorship, shame or mied you .

What meanings do sexual fantasies have?

The meaning of fantasies has a relative importance, if we start from the idea that there is no bad sexual fantasy whenever it works. If the fantasy is able to activate you, to suggest you, to make you feel pleasure, that fantasy works. Use it and much!

However, on certain occasions fantasies can be a cause for concern or they can hinder the privacy of the person, in which case they become disturbing or intrusive fantasies, or as Wendy Maltz calls them, fantasies trick .

This type of fantasies can occur when the fantasy itself is in contradiction with the reality of the person or when the fantasy loses the sense of control of the person who is living it or can also be those that maintain or reinforce negative behaviors or even dangerous.

In these cases, It is good and reassuring to know that fantasies can be modeled to the consumer's liking . Therefore, you can discard that fantasy and find another one. Wendy Maltz conducts guided explorations of fantasies in workshops or in therapy and in her book she explains how she carries it out, counting some cases.

What are the advantages of sexual fantasies?

1. The mind is the most important motor of sexual activation . Using the potential that gives us the ability to fantasize can help enrich and enjoy more of sex life, as it acts directly on the increase of sexual desire. By fantasizing, you can experience experiences that you may not be able to live in real life, but which, experienced in your mind, will bring you enormous pleasure.

2. They are a source of self-esteem improvement and of personal appeal . In general, fantasies allow you to focus on the details more sexy, being able to avoid other people's criticisms and self-criticism.

3. They help to rehearse possible future practices or they can serve to preserve pleasant past memories or to overcome some limitations of the present .

4. Fantasies they are personal creations and as such, they can be modified as desired, adapting them to personal tastes and needs.

5. It is a simple, fun, creative technique that is available to everyone and It's free! (important detail in these times when everything seems to have a price).

6. The more you practice fantasizing, simpler is to unleash well-being , pleasure and even, the sexual response.

There are too many good things contributed by this practice so as not to consider fantasizing.

Bibliographic references:

  • Maltz, W, and Boss, A. (1998). The intimate world of female sexual fantasies: a journey of passion, pleasure and self-discovery. Publisher: Paidós Iberíca.

Is Your Sexual Fantasy Normal? (SFW) (April 2024).


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