Psychologists are also people of flesh and blood (we laugh, we cry, we get angry ...)
This article is inspired by the many times I have been told a somewhat peculiar comment about my profession. And not only me, but many who read this text and devote themselves to psychology must be thinking the same thing.
Dismantling some myths about the profession of psychologist
There are many branches of psychology, but popularly not all are known. When someone thinks of a psychologist, he automatically associates it with the clinical specialty, that is, the discipline that studies the behavior disorders and then submits the patient to therapy to improve their quality of life. Coincidentally, the office of clinical psychologist is the most exploited by the Hollywood film industry and is also closely related to the most famous clinical psychologist in history, Sigmund Freud, Psychoanalysis and the huge world of dreams.
For this reason, when someone asks you what is your profession and you answer that you are a psychologist, almost instantly you have already imagined yourself sitting in a chair with a patient on the couch.
"Day bed: armchair / bed to lie down and
closely related to psychoanalysis. "
Once you assume that you devote yourself to psychology, and although no one knows that yours is not the clinical specialty, usually one of the phrases we have heard most since we began to study the fantastic career of Psychology arises in the minds of the interlocutors.
Leaving aside other recurring questions also well known as: guess what I think, are you psychoanalyzing me? Or have I dreamed of a castle tonight, does that mean something to you? There goes the phrase that they repeat us until exhaustion !:
"Psychologists study that career because they have some problem and want to cure themselves (vulgarly called" crazy "or" deranged ")."
Let's reflect on this sentence. As in all races, there are peculiar, rare, conflictive people and even with serious problems in his behavior . As happens in the psychology career, this also happens in all disciplines, as in all jobs and especially as in life.
People with more or less serious problems are in all corners of our society, and also some in the faculty. I attest to that , because I had the "pleasure" of knowing several "peculiarities" that come from the same guild.
But this does not mean that we should make the exception, the rule . There are also people who start studying this race to better understand why they are the way they are. Although we've all had those thoughts in our heads, just for the sake of being human and reflective. But my advice for people who are considering studying Psychology with the sole interest of trying to solve their problems, it is preferable to go to consultation and try to solve your possible "problems" or concerns in that way. In the end, you will surely save a lot of time and go directly to the goal.
Psychologists have emotions, even if it's incredible
As the title of the article says, we psychologists are people . We do not do everything right, nor can we surely "cure" ourselves, as many believe. We have tools to manage some situations more easily, but we do not do magic.
We are wrong, we fall, we hurt ourselves and we also suffer . We have difficulties, complicated circumstances and less bearable moments, like everyone else. We have the right to be wrong, like all other people and that is not why we are less professional. We have to bear in mind that our attitudes, emotions and situations affect us subjectively, so we have to discern very well what affects us personally or professionally. If what happens to us is really inescapable, it is necessary to start to solve that problem and that situation in order to carry out our work in the best possible way.
Psychologists who come for consultation
Psychologists often also need to go to consultation to solve certain issues that affect them. Does it sound strange that a psychologist goes to another psychologist? Well, I would not have to be.
For example, a psychologist may need to go to therapy because he can not work the mourning of the death of a relative or loved one . It can happen that this person goes to consultation so that another professional can help him in the accompaniment to this process called mourning.
The duel has different phases, and not always passes quickly from one state to another, but we can stay in one of these phases more or less time or even stay stranded in one of them.Especially in this society where they do not teach us to go through a normal duel, it seems that we have very little time to overcome a duel and not all of us need the same time to assimilate the loss of that person that is no longer there.
Each person faces the bad moments in their own way
Even many people take years to stall in a phase, which does not allow you to move forward in your life normally. In other cultures and / or countries such as Mexico, the loss or death of a person is dealt with in a very different way. Examples such as the day of the dead in Mexico where everyone goes out to the streets to remember deceased people with songs and customized skulls painted on their faces. On the other hand, in the United States a kind of catering is done at home so that everyone can say goodbye to the broadcast and give condolences to the family.
They are different ways of facing the same reality. Psychologists, as human persons, are also different when it comes to passing through such a moment. We are not immunized in the face of sadness Nobody is.
In short: a psychologist is neither a robot nor a magician
So then, and going back to the thesis of the article, I hope that after reading this text, when you come back to coincide with a psychologist, think differently about how it is or what it can bring you. Do not forget that people are, first of all, people . With defects and virtues, with fears and with illusions.