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The 5 personality traits and their relationship with your love life

The 5 personality traits and their relationship with your love life

May 9, 2021

The love of a couple, that space of our lives that we decided to share with another person creating emotional bonds, is something that can take many forms and that varies greatly depending on the time and place.

However, in our love life there is something that is constant and that is always there, affecting the way in which we perceive our relationship with the other person and the way in which we interact with them.. It's about our personality or, more specifically, those personality traits that define us .

Our personality applied to love

And it is true that if our personality affects us in all areas of our lives, it is no less true that our love relationships are one of the most important aspects of our existence. Therefore, everything we know about personality traits, brought to light from decades of scientific research, can be used to know, in an approximate way, the characteristics of the way in which we tend to live love.


That is why, if we are interested in trying to establish approximate predictions about how our love life is going to be, it is much more advisable to base ourselves on what we know about personality traits than to do so based on pseudosciences such as astrology.

Personality traits and relationships

Below you can read what are those aspects of personality traits that help us understand our way of experiencing love relationships .

For this, we will take as reference the Model of the 5 major personality traits, also known as the Big Five, in which these personality dimensions are established: extraversion, neuroticism, openness to experience, responsibility and kindness.


1. Extraversion

This dimension of personality serves to establish to what extent we tend to be assertive people and seek social interaction in the present. Thus, it serves to measure whether we are more or less active socially or, on the contrary, introverted and difficult to access .

Extroverted people are more exposed to interaction and dialogue with other people, as they go to meet these types of situations. That's why they can more easily polish their social skills and become charismatic , with a relative ease to find a partner and manage the deal with the person in whom you have a romantic interest.

However, this personality trait is also related to the tendency to seek relationships of short duration and seek novelty in the love life, looking for new partners and not valued as much as others monogamous life (something reminiscent of the Coolidge effect).


A) Yes, Introverted people may have more difficulty finding a partner , but, in case you learn to communicate well with your partner, you are more likely to devote efforts to make the relationship stable and lasting.

2. Neuroticism

Neuroticism is the dimension that measures the degree to which we are emotionally stable or on the contrary we are very sensitive to changes in mood and levels of anxiety. Thus, people who have a high level of neuroticism are volatile and have more difficulties to self-control their emotional states.

With regard to the love life, a high score in the neuroticism trait means a greater probability of developing dissatisfaction in the relationship or marriage, and divorce.

This may be because People with a higher degree of neuroticism are especially sensitive to stress and, in addition, it is difficult for them to manage their actions so that this is not a problem in their relations with others. Therefore, they will have more possibilities to generate conflicts with a certain frequency and they will have a hard time fixing them by establishing effective communication channels with their partner, since they should adopt a calm attitude and see the problem with a colder perspective.

People who, on the contrary, are characterized by their emotional stability, will have it easier to make these problems appear and reproduce themselves over time.

3. Openness to experience

This personality trait signals our propensity towards curiosity and the way in which we value living novel experiences or, on the contrary, the degree to which we like to base our lives on rigid and stable norms. In addition, it is the feature of the Big Five model that has less impact on our love life. unlike what happens with neuroticism, which is what allows us to better predict how our relationships will be.

If we must point to a fact in which openness to experience is significant in our romantic bonds, it is in our intimate relationships. A study indicates that women with higher scores on this trait have relationships of this type more frequently , while this effect was not present in men. This can mean that, in marriages, it is women who decide what happens in their bedroom and with what type of periodicity, since men are willing to intimate with more regularity.

4. Responsibility

Responsibility is the trait that indicates our tendency to follow the necessary steps to achieve medium and long-term objectives and to show us disciplined. In romantic relationships, a high score in this trait indicates a greater likelihood to avoid infidelities and generate well-being in life as a couple. In the same way, people with this most marked personality trait show a propensity to avoid the risks of pregnancy and the transmission of venereal diseases.

5. Friendliness

Kindness indicates the degree to which we are receptive to friendly treatment or we tend towards hostility . Like what happens with the responsibility trait, it correlates positively with satisfaction in marriage, possibly because it facilitates communication and makes it more difficult for direct confrontations to appear.


How Your Childhood Affects Your Love Styles (May 2021).


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