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The types of jealousy and their different characteristics

The types of jealousy and their different characteristics

November 27, 2021

The jealousy they are a phenomenon that we can not understand from a single definition that explains all cases of lattice.

That is why It is useful to talk about types of jealousy , or ways in which jealousy can be expressed and embodied materially through behavior.

What kinds of jealousy exist?

Here you can see a brief outline about the different characteristics that jealousy can have, and how they manifest themselves in different situations and for different reasons and motivations.

Vital jealousy

The types of jealousy that are included in this category do not have as much to do with access to an intimate relationship with people in particular, but with the realization that other people have much more facility to cultivate a good self-image without hardly striving and, at the same time, they are more attractive to oneself than one's own self-image. In this sense, jealousy exists because every small success of the rest of people is a grievance to their own self-esteem. In this category are labor jealousy and jealousy of self-realization.


1. Labor jealousy

This type of jealousy is based on the part of the self-image that appeals to the value that one has as a worker in relation to others . Thus, a person who feels that part of a situation of disadvantage in everything related to their own employability can experience work jealousy, because they see an injustice every time someone gets the job you want for yourself, the promotion you were desiring get or, simply, when you think you have evidence that others get jobs more valued than yours. In addition, this type of jealousy can induce a passive-aggressive attitude that makes it more difficult to promote oneself in the workplace, since in the face of others there is an image of hostility, resignation and little desire to make an effort in what is done.


2. Jealousy of self-realization

This is a kind of jealousy that appeals to a set of abstract ideas about what personal development, happiness and self-realization are. People with this kind of jealousy they believe that others live life with more intensity than oneself , and continuously compares his own life project with that of other people who are taken as a model to follow, only to end up regretting that what these examples of life have achieved is unattainable. This jealousy is articulated according to a series of prejudices about what an "authentic" life should include, such as: risk sports, trips to exotic places, access to high culture, the possibility of meeting famous people , etc.

Jealousy of concrete relationship

The types of jealousy that are framed here they have to do with the relationship you have with specific people . Normally, this lattice is born from the belief that there are certain agents that prevent our relationship with that person from becoming as intimate and private as one would wish. Self-esteem is also involved in this type of jealousy, both as part of the causes and as part of the consequences.


1. Childish jealousy

They usually occur between young children and adolescents . Usually it is jealousy between brothers, cases in which it is perceived that a brother or sister gets in the relationship with at least one of the parents. In general, this type of jealousy results from a struggle to get the attention of an authority figure, which may be a father, a mother or any adult person in the family environment.

2. Couple jealousy

They are crises of the couple's relationship in which at least one of its members distrusts the other person or the ability to be attractive enough to make the relationship last . In the beginning, they are usually based on very specific facts, although as jealousy develops, the "evidences" on which they are based are increasingly spurious, which can make the situation rapidly worsen. This type of jealousy also has a possessive and reifying component towards the other person, since it is understood that the couple is a resource that has demand beyond the relationship and that the solvency or not of the courtship or marriage depends at all times on factors external, as what the rest of potential couples offer.

Pathological jealousy

All types of jealousy named above they can vary between the moderation of the lattice to the pathological . Therefore, all can be barely perceptible or so extreme that they pose a serious problem in the quality of life of the person who suffers them and that of the people around them.

For example, the couple's jealousy may be based on delusions about what the couple secretly does, or they may even appear in cases in which not only is there no relationship as a couple, but the person who loves them " retain "has no interest in getting to know the other intimately.This would be the case, for example, of certain cases in which the "fan phenomenon" towards a famous person who is not known in person has led to reckless or directly homicidal behavior. Pathological jealousy can also be one of the factors that intervene in domestic violence.

You can know more about this category in the following article: "Sick jealousy: 10 common signs among extremely jealous people"

How To Know If Someone Is Secretly Jealous Of You | #BeTheLight (November 2021).


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