I want to buy more time: when we want to reach everything
The inadequate organization of time is one of the most common sources of stress and anxiety that we can suffer people, but, fortunately, we have the capacity to administer it.
Being aware that we have that power improves our well-being and quality of life in a remarkable way. And although it is not always easy for us to do it, to select priorities and objectives, to delegate tasks, to say "no" at the appropriate moment ... these are actions that can favor our emotional balance and can free us from frustration.
Tips for managing time
With an intelligent scheme of Sergio Fernández about productivity and time management, this week, M.ª Teresa Mata , psychologist of the Institute of Psychological and Psychological Assistance Mensalus launches a reflection on the management of priorities and the pursuit of vital purposes. Ana Dorado .
"I do not have time" is a feeling that, at some point, we have all verbalized ...
True. And notice: having more time is impossible. The good news is that we have the ability to manage it in our hands. Managing time is real. This is something that, when we discover it, makes us feel tremendously powerful.
Although it is hard to believe, not everything is a priority. However. Saying "no" is a much more complicated task than it seems. Otherwise, we would stop overloading our agendas of apparent essentials. Release, stop, reject and delegate are actions that require training, training related to the choice of objectives and the conservation of vital energy.
What should this election consider?
The management of priorities is important to be faithful to the vital purposes. For this reason, listening to what is our will facilitates the establishment of limits and the manifestation of the right to get rid of "the superfluous" (what, in the beginning, we indicate as "I must" and, after assessing the degree of costs and benefits, We catalog "I do not want it").
We are used to operate subjected to constant distractions and interruptions resulting from external demands and, do not deny it, self-demands ("I want to be in everything"). Likewise, we often "give away" vital time to tasks that do not reward us ("for what it costs me, is it worth it?"). Being mentally organized is paramount to living the time, savoring it, and not competing on a daily basis ("I feel like I'm not coming"). The famous "I feel like I'm not coming" is a source of anxiety.
How can we win the battle?
An interesting concept is that of "firewalls": indicators that force us to finish the task. The worst enemy of the firewall is perfectionism. Sate your cravings translates into a bottomless pit, a "thief" of life time. Working well is different from living to work, so tasks have to accept part of imperfection. Otherwise, we will delay the next objective and, of course, we will feel that we can not do everything. In this sense, postpone and delay is a drag on productivity. Any decision implies a loss, no matter how small. Assuming it is what makes us free people and unloads us from the unwanted demand.
What other aspects add anxiety?
Again, thoughts related to the pending tasks ("I have to remember"). Writing down the task (and, taking advantage of new technologies, associating it with a warning) is a recommendation known by all. Even so, we do not devote enough time to realistic planning and organization of the agenda. Why? Possibly due to the famous belief of "I must, should and should".
Having said that. We can set in motion many organizational systems, more or less visual, more or less sophisticated (eg: "make lists, create filters, put the phone in silence, indicate by colors, delete e-mails, review the tasks of the month" , etc.), but allowing us will be the element that truly decides whether or not we are productive (if we cover a level of work / coherent requirement).
What else can we do to remember that, the fact of not having time, is simply a sensation?
Demonstrate that it is so. Have you tried saying "no" to unexpected requests, seemingly attractive plans that turn into real Tetris games impossible to fit, meetings in which you talk more than you work, breakfasts that lengthen, delegable tasks ("I have to go / do I do it "), etc.? This is a good way to start. On the other hand, the "I do not have time" becomes even an excuse not to stop and think about everything that is over in our lives.Put expiration date to "what's left over" is the first step.
From Coaching and Psychotherapy we draw the necessary steps to achieve it. Today, to start the year, we are left with a very graphic and intelligent scheme. We hope you find it useful.
