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10 tips to say goodbye (even if you still love him)

10 tips to say goodbye (even if you still love him)

April 28, 2024

In the world of interpersonal relationships, especially couples, there are difficult moments that we have to live . One of them is when we live an unrequited love or when we are in a relationship and we know that the time has come to say goodbye because we have tried everything and the thing does not work.

These situations can create great suffering, and staying in them can be devastating. For that reason, although nobody likes to say goodbye to someone they love, sometimes it is the best option.

When saying goodbye is an opportunity to grow

The farewells can be very hard, and even more so when we know that we will not see that person we have loved so much, and we are aware that nothing will be the same again and that, over time, the connection that once existed will disappear. .

But there are times when saying goodbye is an opportunity to grow, and also an opportunity to redirect our life to the path we want, because when love is not returned, the obstacles in the way may be too great to continue in that direction. route. In these cases, it is convenient to be smart and take the right path, the one that allows us to be ourselves again and that leads us towards our well-being.

And that saying may sound selfish, but it is even worse to stay on that path in which the other person will be selfish with us at one time or another, because when we do not feel the same and the relationship is not fair. When a relationship begins to be toxic, we have the right to lose yes or yes.

The decision to say goodbye can be hard, but in this context it is, without a doubt, the least bad option . Although at the time of the farewell it seems that the world is ending, the truth is that it is a way to close a stage and start a new one. One that will allow us to grow, and from which we can take advantage of that initial pain to be more than we are and develop as people.

Say goodbye even though there is still love

Although we have clear that we must say goodbye to that person we love so much, it is not always easy to take the step. In the following lines we give you some tips to say goodbye even if you still want.

1. Understand the situation and do not rush

Saying goodbye to a person we love should not be the result of an impulsive act, but should be meditated and reflected. This means that the situation must be understood and seen objectively. And when it is clear that staying in that situation the only thing that will cause is pain, it is better to let it go. Now, there are always other options before this one. For example, opt for dialogue or go to couple therapy if you want to save the relationship. But nevertheless, there are times when goodbye is inevitable, and then it only remains to say goodbye .

2. Be realistic

If you have already given yourself a deadline for things to change and this has not been the case, if you have tried to speak and things do not improve, do not kid yourself: people do not change if they do not want to change, so Staying in that relationship for longer will only hurt you .

3. Be sure you really want to do it

The fact of not rushing is to be really sure that the decision we are going to make is the correct one. When you have it clear, and you have valued the pros and cons of your decision, then you can continue with your life .

4. Be honest

Come to the point of saying goodbye, it is necessary to be honest. But not only with the other person, but also with ourselves. Facing is the best option, although many people find it hard to talk about feelings and expose what they really think .

5 Be respectful

If you are honest, you must also be respectful. Therefore, it is possible to say things clearly without a hurtful tone . Being assertive is a great virtue, and being able to expose your points of view will always be in your benefit. Now, you must also be respectful with the other person, and if you do not want to be with you, you must understand that it is something that happens and that you must accept.

6. Find the right time

It is always good to find the right time to speak and, if possible, to say it to your face . Now, if it is not possible, try to make the message respectful and expose how you feel. You can send an email or a whatsapp if the other person can not stay with you.

7. Be consistent

It is clear that the message for that special person, if it is sincere, will express your deepest feelings despite saying goodbye . But you must remember the situation that has led you to say goodbye, and you must remain faithful to the idea that it is over. Do not kid yourself, because if the person does not want to be with you, it will not be. Once you have expressed yourself, be consistent with what you have said. If it's goodbye, it's goodbye.

8. Close the door

Surely you will want the other person to swear eternal love after the message, but this rarely happens . If you have meditated on the decision, you have done the right thing. Do not leave the door open with phrases like "See you soon", because what happens in the future will be seen later. Although hope is the last thing that is lost, you must not feed it. To overcome this situation you must stick to the premise of "all or nothing" or "with you or without you". If in the future you resume the relationship to be good friends, it will be because you have wanted it and that is what you feel.

9. Understand that the road will not be easy

It usually happens that, after expressing your feelings, you feel a certain comfort and sensation of catharsis. However, leaving someone you love behind is one of the hardest experiences we can suffer . The lack of love is a process that is not linear, but there will be days with ups and downs in which you will want to cry and others in which you will want to vent anger. It's part of the process, so understand it and move on with the decision you've made.

10. Do not run away from your emotions and give yourself time

If you feel like crying, do it. Take a moment of the day to throw that person away at the beginning, but with time you will recover stability and you will get hooked back to life. If you want to know more about how to deal with this situation, you can read our article "The 5 phases to overcome the grief of the couple breakup".

How To Let Go of Someone You Love | How To Move On From A Relationship (April 2024).

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