The 7 most widespread erroneous beliefs about sex
Despite the wide access to information that we currently have thanks to the internet, myths or erroneous beliefs related to sexuality still exist that to a greater or lesser extent condition our sexual experience.
And is that the availability of information does not always facilitate our lives or help prevent problems if that information is inadequate because it is adjusted to macho patterns or is not directly based on scientific conclusions. This is what happens in many websites with few contrasted content, based on pure popular beliefs about different aspects of sexuality.
Although this inadequate information can influence everyone, regardless of their age, it is the child-adolescent population that is most vulnerable to these erroneous contents. Again, education becomes a key tool to counteract the possible harmful effects that all this can entail.
Misconceptions or misconceptions about sex more frequent
In our experience in Sex Education programs that we carry out in educational centers in different cities, we find that many of these myths are perpetuated throughout the generations. In this way, many of those erroneous beliefs that currently have a large part of adolescents, had adults when they were at that stage of the evolutionary cycle. In this sense there is an unquestionable perpetuation over time of sexual attitudes that in some cases are not desirable / healthy.
Then, we explain the myths or erroneous beliefs that we most frequently find in the classes .
1. "The first time you have intercourse (vaginal penetration) there is no possibility of pregnancy and it always hurts"
It must be said that there is no relationship between the first time this sexual practice is performed and the greater or lesser probability of pregnancy, since it is the use of an effective contraceptive method which decreases the possibility of pregnancy.
We say that the first coital relationship does not have to hurt unconditionally for a physiological question, since the vagina is an elastic structure capable of "accommodating" any penis size, since it is designed among other things for it.
Yes it is true that Sometimes pain may appear during that first time due to the importance that coitus represents in our culture . This makes both men and women go to their first coital relationship with high expectations that in many cases, produces nervousness, anxiety, even fear (due to the appearance of pain). All this can cause in the case of women a decrease in excitement (due to nervousness, fear, etc.) with which the level of lubrication decreases and therefore the appearance of pain is more likely.
2. "Coitus is the most pleasurable sexual practice"
There are no biological elements that allow us to confirm this statement, instead there are many social conditioning factors that make us fall into a co-centrist vision of sexuality , or what is the same, to turn sex into intercourse. In this way, this sexual practice can be as pleasant as many others: masturbation, oral sex, etc. We can find numerous cases of couples who, without engaging in intercourse, feel a high degree of sexual satisfaction. Everything will therefore depend on tastes and preferences.
3. "The size of the penis is very important in sexual relations"
AND This belief is widespread in today's society and consists of giving excessive importance to the size of the penis . Thus, it is believed that a large penis is related to more sexual potency or even to obtain a higher level of pleasure. The truth is that size is relatively important in itself, unless the taste or preference of the person goes in that line. In any case and in general terms, little has to do with the sexual potency with the size of the penis since there are many elements in the sexual scene that will determine whether or not you feel satisfied.
Consequently, it is important not to fall into this obsession and think more in terms of functionality than in terms of size, that is, to focus more on whether the penis is functional (if it fulfills the pleasurable, physiological and reproductive function it has) than in the centimeters it measures. If the penis is functional, the rest (size, shape, etc.) enters into a secondary plane.
4. "The man is the one who has to take the active part of the sexual relationship"
Gender culture has attributed some roles to men and others to women. Thus, the former must be active, take the initiative in the relationship and take responsibility for the pleasure of the woman (in case of heterosexual relationships). Women must be more passive and "let themselves be done".It is important to consider that both men and women have the same sexual rights and therefore adopt the desired role regardless of what the culture marks.
5. "The 'reverse' is a good contraceptive method"
This practice consists in doing a coitus without using any contraceptive method and removing the penis from the vagina when the man is going to ejaculate, doing it out of it. Thinking that the "reverse" is an effective method of contraception is a belief in addition to erroneous dangerous for two reasons: first, because the man before ejaculating emits pre-seminal fluid that although it does not contain sperm, it could drag sperm located in the urethra of past ejaculations, so the risk of pregnancy would be important.
On the other hand, it does not protect us from Sexually Transmitted Diseases (STDs) since the contact between the genitals and especially the vaginal penetration is the main risk route against contagion (together with the unprotected anal).
6. "The condom or condom removes sensitivity, cuts the roll"
Incorporating the use of condoms (male or female) in our sexual relationships is one of the healthiest practices what can we do? The condom has a thickness of approximately one millimeter, this makes the "loss" of sensitivity is minimal. Going to the sexual relationship thinking that the condom will remove sensitivity will make me predispose to this happening, so the attitude should not be that, but rather that I earn much more than I "lose" (if is that I lose something) using it.
7. "If a man loses an erection it is because he does not consider his partner attractive"
When the loss of erection occurs frequently we can raise the possibility that there is an erection problem , which rarely causes the couple to be unattractive. The most frequent causes of this problem have to do with the anxiety generated by the fact that it happens again, the fear of failure or the desire to measure up, among others.
As we see once again, training is the most effective tool to combat these beliefs. From Psychological Training we have been teaching a Sex Education Monitor course for more than ten years that enables the person who performs it to carry out educational projects in secondary schools and institutes where they can work on this and other areas of sexuality.